For marriage women only please... Do you have some other problem than money matter?

Question

I am stay home mother of two small children. All I worried is always money. We always deficit each month, we keep using our saving, and it keeps lower and lower. I wish I could work, but with my husband jobs hour, that is impossible, He can not predict when He has off for me to go work. He is the only one can baby sit. we don't have any relative that can help baby sit.
I want to ask, how do you feel if your husband makes a lot of money for your family? Is that a good feeling? Don't have to shopping with coupons anymore? Do you have any other problems than money? we live in budget, and sometimes not enough, if emergency happen. please sharing with me, It helps me alot that i am not alone, thank you for your answer.

My husband works different hours everyday. sometimes he works really late at night. Do you think some people want my junk in ebay? I was thingking to sell stuff in ebay too. like used clothes, gifts that i don't like or used. Thank you for your answer. They made me cry. That I am not alone, thank you for support, advice, and sharing

Answer 1

I am a single man, and I have money problems. Just put your trust in God's hands and everything will work out. I was laid-off and almost lost everything, I got on my knees and prayed, I was making plans to live on the streets, about a month later I got a better paying job, went to a techinical college, got certified and now I make almost 3 times as I did before. Give it a try, it will surely work.

Answer 2

I have been in your shoes, my husband sometimes worked two jobs (a trucking job and in the hospital) It took awhile before he found a job that paid well and used his college degree. Be oh so happy you have two healthy children, one of my children has cerebral palsy so I have never been able to work outside the home because I would never leave his care to anyone else. Now we are very comfortable and guess what.. I still use coupons! You never know when the tied will turn and your good fortune will change. Do not worry that you can not buy every new fad that comes along. In our last house we could not afford cabinets in the laundry room so I built some out of cardboard boxes, contact paper and material that made curtains for the front, most everyone did not even notice when they came over! Be creative by finding free entertainment (walking paths). Do not compare yourself with others and envy others. The most valuable lesson I have learned is... know the difference between what you need and what you want. I taught this to my children early on (such as never allowing them to have candy unless it was on sale and teaching them if we had a coupon it was an extra bonus) It really can be fun knowing you have got the biggest "bang for your buck". Enjoy life not "stuff" Much Love.

Answer 3

I'm a stay home mother to two children as well. My husband works long hours---and sometimes has to travel with his job. He doesn't make a lot of money, but we can get by. I do a lot of budgeting (don't use coupons) and try to save everything we can--even if it's a very small amount. If we have to take money from the savings, I make sure it gets put back in there. We do have financial difficulties, but every family does---even the 2 income families. I try not to worry---I mean, things could always be worse.

I'm not sure how bad your financial situation is, but maybe there ARE things you can do to make some money. ►How about doing daycare from your house? I did that for many years and made ok money.
►Sell on Ebay? That's another option.
►You could also get a job at a daycare center. Some centers will give you a discount for enrolling your own children. Then, you can work and still be with your kids.
►You could run errands for the elderly. Not only can you make a little money there, but they enjoy the company--and I'm sure they'd especially love getting to know your children.
Does your husband have specific days off? Is he home at night?? ►You could apply at a group home, or a home that cares for mentally challenged/disabled people---they often need help and pay decent. Some of those places can put your name on a sub list and when they need help, they'll call---you have the option of working or not. If your husband is home at night, you could work the night shift in a home---in some homes you can get paid to sleep there.

Good luck to you! ☺

Answer 4

Hi, I'm 19 years old and I have a 14 month old little girl. This coming up weekend is my first year wedding anniversy! It's amost impossible for me to work outside of the home. I sell Pampered Chef(it's kitchen tools) from home and I can make my own hours which really helps. The great thing about it is that you can just do catalog shows-which is where all you have to do is hand out catalogs and order forms and the people get the orders back to you, you send the order end and get paid for them. You could do all this and never leave home except for to go to the post office every now and then!!! Sometimes things still get a little tight every now and again BUT selling something from home does help a bunch, usually I've got at least an extra $1000 a month coming in....and that really adds up...THAT's A LOT of groceries. If you want to know more about my business you can go to www.pamperedchef.biz/tiffanyelliott

Just know you aren't alone with money being tight!

Answer 5

Some of our worst times are when we're broke. With my school and even more so, my back injury, I can't work, and things get pretty tense around here. If he's stressed about money, its everyone's stress. He even takes it out on the children. When I'm stressed, I have no choice but to keep my mouth shut because to say anything just adds fuel to the fire. I can spend money though! Holy crap! When Im upset, I go shopping! Now Im not talking about hundreds of dollars here, but maybe $50-$100, and its NEVER for myself! I always spend on my kids or him. Sure, I could go buy a new outfit, but I'd rather get my kids new shoes or the husband a new x-box game. Just the way I am. Husband shops too, but always for himself. Never thinks about what we might "need" just what he "wants".
I dream of the days when I graduate and start practicing. Making money, driving the car I want to drive, not what I have to drive, going out to nice romantic dinners, being able to afford a sitter etc. Its so hard, I know. Just keep marching girl, we'll get there!

Answer 6

Your not alone at all. I am a mother/ step mother and another on the way. We can hardly afford our bills right know and we have another child coming in less then a month. Don't feel bad because your not the only one out there. It seems to me that my husband can spend his money on bs other then taking care of business sometimes. You know what I mean? And savings? ha what savings... I had a savings account built up since I was 16 (now 21) and I cleared it out last year because we were having money problems. SO all we women can do is really stay strong for ourselves and keep our complaining up. Because if it weren't for us complaining our children probably wouldn't have everything that they do.

Answer 7

I hate that my husband makes all the money and the fact it isn't enough. It's very stressful. I have the same problem with the babysitter thing. I'm going to college when she's in school so I can get a good job, but before she got in school it was really tough. At least you still have some savings. Money problems lead to stress which leads to problems in the bedroom. Just know you aren't alone. Check your area for daycares or the newspaper for someone who wants to babysit. You may luck out. But I know that is a problem too because daycares are so expensive & it's hard to know who to trust. If you want to email me, I'd be happy to be a simpathetic ear. Good luck.

Answer 8

You are not alone. I have an 18-month-old and work from home. Work has been slow lately and my husband and I are struggling to make ends meet. I have been thinking about putting my daughter in day-care and going to work somewhere but it is so expensive that I wouldn't be making that much more once I pay for day-care. Maybe you can find some type of work you can do from home like typing and medical transcription (which I do) or making crafts. Coupons rule!

Answer 9

I had money problems too when my kids were young. We lived in another city so I didn't have family to help. I know what your going thru. Just keep your chin up. Kids cost money. Even now, my daughter is 15 and is expensive. We have more money but I still use coupons and have to watch. Unless you are totally wealthy, you have to watch. So, good luck honey, things will work out. At least you have a happy family!

Answer 10

you know there is alot of other problems in every relationship.. you may think its hard for you but think about it in a positive side... looke the time you are spending with your kids is precious...and i know plenty of mothers that would rather do that than work..but cant cuz they dont have a responsable hubby to take care of them even if this means living day by day.. and i can tell you for sure alot of people that have enough if not alot of money ..have different problems in there love life.. such as cheating and domestic violence...a hubby too lasy to work.. ect..

I am sure you can do other things find out there is jobs you can do from home...you may want to search..the net.. but if you have a computer ..n i asume you do.. then you can do something from home....


by the way you are not the only one shopping with coupons... my mom does it all the time...and there isnt nothing wrong with that.. it is actually a smart way to shop...


good luck...