Well it all happened Sunday... my new guy and me were cuddled on my couch.... his physco ex shows up at my door with their 3 kids.. they arent together, he has custody. He wasn't to pick them until much later. She freaked and called me names etc. Well I turned to Jack after she left...... and told him I needed to think, he left with the kids.... I'm upset, I don't know how to handle this at all...... devastated......what should I do.... missing him to the moon, can call he phone isn't activated yet....?
2006-07-11 06:59:09 · 9 answers · asked by SANDY V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A week before he brought his kids to meet me, they are great, but obviously they were bugged by the mother about where I lived.....
2006-07-11 07:01:31 · update #1
She knew he was seeing someone new, because he told her, the kids I met about a week ago, he wanted that... so I guess they lead her to my place....... can't blame them just wee kids....
2006-07-11 07:25:35 · update #2
chances are, you can get way better. start looking now so you'll have your won kids and a relationship that wont end up like hers.
2006-07-11 07:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by tripseven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has custody of his 3 kids which means should you ever get married or serious raising someone else's kids is not an easy task and it will wear you down and out. How did the ex get your address? Why is he causally giving it out your address when it's none of her business. I'd be concern about that. His ex just doesn't want another woman to take her place most likely wants the guy back. Something is not right here and maybe it's time to think over, is this the actual guy for you.
2006-07-11 14:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to decide on if this man is worth what you feel you are going through. Most of the time there are hard times when you are dating someone that has kids whether it comes from the kids themselves or the parents of the kids. It will be hard at first but you never know things might just calm down. It will have to be your choice though on if you are willing to deal with it or not.
That's all I can tell ya.
Hang in there.
2006-07-11 14:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you get your act together and make up to him She wins. When dealing with an ex problem it is best to be firm and not to put up with junk talk. Just shut the door on her and tell her to keep it between them as you are not interested in her complaints. Let him know she is to keep away from you and you are willing to work with the kids but not be a sounding board for his ex. While talking to him be sure and have him let the kids know you will not take **** from them and although you will welcome them and be nice to them they have no right to talk back to you or give you a hard time. Period. If he is unable to deal with that you are just wasting your time.
2006-07-11 14:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say I see nothing but trouble in your future... It would be best to find someone with a little less baggage that can at least afford a cell phone... Have you ever heard his so-called crazy ex's side of the story...? You may be surprised...
2006-07-11 14:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter if you stay with him or not, this girl may freak anytime she sees you. Don't worry about it. If you like him and his kids, then don't sweat it. As long as he's not interested in his ex, you shouldn't have any problems. Best of luck ......
2006-07-11 14:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me you need to tell Jack to get his priorities together.She had no biz comming to your house and who cares if the kids don't like where you live they don't haf to live there and they need to stay in a child's place.That's his job to do not yours.
2006-07-11 14:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you think leave him it not going to work between you and when his ex were call you name he don;t do anything and you let them in your house oh my GOD you need to save your life and you will find someone much more better than him
2006-07-11 14:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so confused? His ex is a nut bag. If you want to be with him, you have to learn to deal with her. She is crazy. Just accept it. Just like I have accepted my wife's ex as a nut, she has accepted my ex as a nut also.
2006-07-11 14:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋