I got pregnant right away and am 20 weeks, she is trying very hard to concieve. What can I do to help her feel better?
2006-07-11 06:51:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Just be there for her. If she is excited, be excited with her. If she is sad, listen and console her.
Hopefully she will be pregnant by time you give birth- that will be hard on her. If she isn't, DONT complain about the baby. She will only resent you.
I wouldn't take her shopping for baby stuff, or talk about yourself. This will just make her realize how desperately she wants a baby of her own.
2006-07-11 06:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by B26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in your friend's position. I am TTC and my niece who I am very close to is 11 weeks pregnant. I've slowly gotten use to the idea and here are some tips you might find helpful. Be up front and honest--say something like I know you're trying to have a baby and have a lot of mixed feelings about my being pg so if there is something I can do let me know. Also, take her cues--if she calls and asks about the baby-talk about it. Don't call her and obsess about the baby--she may start avoiding you. She will deal with it in her own way and will come around. Also, one last thing, verbally invite her to your shower but also tell her you will understand if she can't come and leave it at that. Congrats and good luck!!
2006-07-11 18:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could work, or make her feel worse. But maybe you could get her really involved in your child's life. Have her help you pick out baby clothes and stuff. Maybe she could be the godmother? I think being a part of your baby's life might make her feel a little better about not having one of her own. It could make her feel worse, but it might not.
Has she ever considered adopting? There are a lot of unwanted children in this world who need someone to love them.
2006-07-11 13:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be a friend - listen to her talk and be there if she need a shoulder to lean on - is she tracking her fertility?
check out these sites so you can offer her information if she wants it - don't give it to her if she doesn't want it though, that will just upset her
http://www.babycenter.com/preconception/gettingpregnant/index
http://www.babycenter.com/preconception/precsex/index
http://www.ovulation-calculator.com/
http://mymonthlycycles.com
Don't feel badly that you got pregnant and she didn't - everyone's bodies are different and your friend will have her time - just be there to listen and help - don't overwhelm her with your baby details is she doesn't seem ready - Good luck!
2006-07-11 13:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might ask her if she even wants your support. she may want you to step back for a while. tell her that you don't want to hurt her feelings by being excited about your own pregnancy and that you want to be there for her but if she needs you to back away for a while you'll understand.
2006-07-11 14:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋