my and my wife have been merried for alittle over a year. she is having some probs, with her mental illness and her mind is convinced that i am cheating and abusive. she has scysophrenia and is not taken her meds. what can i do help her when she has a restraining order on my and also doesnt belaeve she has a prob.?
2006-07-11 06:48:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have talked to the whole family and they know i wouldnt do anything to hurt her. thay have also tried to help and she thinks they are turning agenst her.
2006-07-11 06:59:40 · update #1
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2006-07-11 06:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! I'm in the same boat! But I'm sure it's not the same condition. We've been married 14 years next month. I can't do a thing b/c she is convinced there is nothing wrong with her despite evaluations from experts including licensed therapists. Nothing she is doing is rational including leaving a 5 and 7 yo. Her grounds for divorce are irrational also. Lawyers, therapists, priests, and family have all said she is irrational. But does this mean it has to end the marriage and alter the lives of children who don't comprehend mental illness?
The only thing you can do is get her into psychotherapy. There really isn't anything you can do about the divorce. Honestly, protect yourself. I'm sure you still really, really love her. But she's in another world. Get her help. Get yourself an attorney. If you are in the State of California, mental health is one of two only reasons the state will grant a divorce.
2006-07-11 06:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you best to talk with her family. And get some sort of a plan together to help her. Maybe she needs a new dr that can convince her to take her meds. Maybe suggest marriage counseling to a family member and have them talk to her about it. Even if there is not abuse this is something that would be good to sit down and talk through with a counselor. Maybe she needs to here it from alot of people around her. Anyone you can get to try to convince her to take the meds. Maybe she need to hear it from everyone not just you.
2006-07-11 06:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by SiberianHusky_8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs therapy in addition to the meds. Look in to support groups in your area that are offered by National Institute of Health or some churches. You can't help her, until she helps herself. Be careful not to lose yourself in the process. It has been said that "a crazy person, can make a sane person crazy". Don't let this happen to you. Get out and live again. I dated a Bi-Polar person for 12 years and sadly his behavior got worse every year. I'm happier now without him.
Best wishes!
2006-07-11 06:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out, spend sometime with her like a picnic or some tourist spots where there aint many ppl.
come early frm office assist her in household chores, call her up regularly, touch her a lot in a way assuring her u are all hers.
tell her she has no pbs and ask her to take her medics on time u can remind her on the ph follwoing it with a big mwaaaaahh etc.
its time to do ur duty as a husband then running away from it, Give it a try pls.
2006-07-11 07:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by Tanu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. I'm afraid you can't save someone from themselves. If she refuses to take her meds and has a restraining order against you then it's time to move on. Legally you could be arrested for continuing to try to help her.
2006-07-11 06:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear your situation. It sounds the same as mine except we are still together. I don't want a divorce as I don't want to lose my home, dogs, and friends. In your case I would divorce now since you've only been married less than 2 years. Do it now.
2006-07-11 07:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
meds are not always the answer make her feel loved if she got a R.O on you i think you must have done something wrong because the court will not allow a R.O with out cause so i would check to see what you did wrong for her to loose her mind...
2006-07-11 06:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by barbie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do, I would suggest that you stay away from her until she decides that there is a problem. You could land yourself in jail if not careful if she already has a restraining order.
BE CAREFUL
2006-07-11 06:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not taking her medication then it's not your fault. Even though she's ill, I seriously think you need to have her committed to a mental institution where they can treat her illness better.
2006-07-11 06:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by IKNOWALL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has anyone talked to her doctor? That would be the logical step to take
2006-07-18 20:50:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋