My husband hit me again?Is this normal?

Question

can someone please tell me how to make him love me more he's just repllent.

Answer 1

XXXXXXXXXXXXX Hit you once, shame on him. Hit you twice, shame on you. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXxx

Answer 2

There is no way anyone can ask if thats normal when u know urself that thats not normal. If u think that that guy loves u then ur just kidding yourself any one who loves u can not inflict pain on you. I am sorry but the guy doesnt love u and u really need to get out because the longer u stay in that situation it will just get worse. You need to get help right away there so many places u can get help and u need to do it soon before its too late. Dont make this guy love u u have to love urself first before anyone can ever love u. If u can ask such a question then u really dont love urself. The question u should ask urself is how Did I get here? To the point where u would let anyone lay a hand on u and still think that they would ever love u. I pray that u will get out of that situation and learn more about urself and why ur letting pple like ur husband take advantage of u like that.

Answer 3

It is difficult to accept that the person you love doesn't love you back. He will say he does, but he doesn't know what love is. It is extremely rare for an abuser to ever change without LOTS of professonal help.

I am going to tell you, it is not o.k., it is not "normal" and it is not going to change. You need to leave.

It is also very unlikely that you are going to take my advice because most women don't. I didn't. I was once in an abusive relationship for 13 years. I had 100 excuses why I couldn't leave. Money was at the top of the list. I had 3 kids. But, then one day it got bad enough and I just left. It was tuff, but not as tuff as I thought it would be.

I not only survived, but I am not in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful man - who wouldn't dream of hitting me. We have been together for 7 years now and are loving our life together.

So again, I will say, either get him to agree to counseling or LEAVE NOW.

Answer 4

Sweetheart you cannot make any man love you... I was in an abuse relationship once and it was terrible.. him hitting you is not your fault. You may have inticed or induced the situation, however, his decision to hit you.. is just that........ his decision. You cannot control his mind, thoughts, actions, his hands, his desires or his short comings. You have nothing to do with him being an abuser.. that is his choice.

The only thing that he will continue to do it whip your azz... until you get enough balls to leave him alone. You could become his sex slave, you could give him anything and everything he wants.. he is still gonna whip your azz. Why cause he is an abuser and HE is the one that has to fix this problem.

I get so tired of woman saying, "if I didnt' do this" or "I didn't do that", he wouldn't hit me or he would do this to me....

Get a FUKKIN grip .................. get your shyt together. The only reason a man hits a woman is because she allows him to hit her. The only reason that she won't leave, is becuase he has her controlled and brainwashed. I pray you all do not have any children that are witness to the violoence. I would hate to think you have a son that is going to grow up thinking it is ok to beat women. Or a daugther that is going to grow up thinking it is acceptable for a man to put his hands on a woman.... it is not acceptable and you are not providing or being a very good roll model for your child.

I will pray for you!

Answer 5

Of course it's not normal !
You can't MAKE him love you more. He either does, or he doesn't. And, in this case I would pick the latter.
Get out while you have a chance, some women wait until it's too late. You don't want to be another statistic.
There are just too many good men out there to have to settle for an abusive relationship.
Find someone that will return the love you give.
Don't "SETTLE".

Answer 6

You shouldn't be asking this question, I feel if a man has to hit a woman for any reason at all, he is not a man, so why would you want to settle for less when, there is bigger and greater things out there.

I think you are just comfortable with him, now you can keep being comfortable with him if you want, but honey its just going to get worst.... I mean you just said he hit you AGAIN, doesn't that tell you something... honey wake up...

Leave that dude... he is worthless... and you are priceless... so step up,, and pack yo Shi#... you feel me.

You can take my advice or not I really don't care... but Love is blinding you, and you need some kind of common sense. to get away... but if you stay honey child. you neva know you might just have a broken rib or jaw next time.

Good Luck

Answer 7

You wouldn't be asking this question if you thought it was normal. Nobody should hit anyone. That is that. They will just keep hitting you. It starts out slow and then it gets more frequent. It is all about control. Knock the **** out him and run like hell...! If you can't do that, then get out of this marriage. No one deserves to be unhappy and treated bad. Just because you found someone to love and who is suppose to love you, does that give him the right to now treat you bad? God didn't put you on this earth to be hit on. Do not loose your family either. Always stay in touch with family members. If he doesn't like you talking to them or anyone, that is another form of control. Just remember you are worth being treated nice.

Answer 8

You got to be kidding,love you more?Girl that guy cant stand you he isn't ever going to love you once a abuser always a abuser,and he knows he can do it to you and get away with it the more he is going to do,the thing you should be asking is how to get out or away from this looser.I hate when abused women stick up for their husbands or boyfriends thinking they love them and it wont happen again,and that's the farthest thing from the truth,it will.You will never change them so get that out of your head they need professional help and that don't even work at times,that isn't love at all .Pack up your stuff or pack his **** up and meet him at the door and say bye .If your afraid take a restraining order out on him and have the law do it,but you better get out before its too late and don't think in time he will stop in time he is only going to get worse don't let him do this too you.You deserve better and you can find a man who does not put his hands on you,good luck

Answer 9

NO, this is not normal.

You can't make him love you more. You can't change a man, especially abusive husbands. He has no respect for you and never will learn. You are perfectly justified in calling the police, but you must leave if you take this step because it will only make him angrier. He doesn't love you if he can hurt you like that.

Run far, far away. There are resources that can help you. Call your county human services. They have aid for battered women. They have safe-houses where he cannot find you.

God bless.

Answer 10

sure, we hit women just cuz they look more sexy with bruises on them and it feels better than a punchbag. (I'm being sarcastic).
No, it's not normal. He shouldn't be hitting you, and you can't make him love you. Sounds to me like either he resents you for some reason and feels trapped or he's got a temper/control issue. Either way there's not a lot you can do unless you know the problem. Men need a "play companion" and if you figure out the things he enjoys doing and do them with him (if he wants to) it will make him happier. Other than that there's not much you can or should do. He should deal with his issues or else... .

Answer 11

It is wrong for a husband/man to hit his wife/woman in the first place. A second time screams that he is abusive. You need to leave the situation as soon as possible and get a divorce and move on with your life. You are worth more than to be someone else's punching bag. Stand up for yourself and leave.