i read this question about heavier women.........................?

Question

and a persn replied that most men like their women to be "full figured". Im a size 10 and i dont get how that can be true. Where are these men that DONT look for the models and the toothpics? because most couples i see have skinny girls and its very discomforting. It makes me feel i have to lose so much weight before i'll ever be considered. I have a great personallity and im not a shy or mean person. Are there really lots of guys out there that dont concern themselves with a womans phsical appearance? If so where are they, i have'nt met them? What should i do about myself?

i dont have self esteem problems, and i dont think im fat but im sure not as skinny as most. And i know i dont need a man, im actually a very independent person, i am just curious a s to why the world likes to make skinnier women seem like gold when really there are much prettier women who have a little more body.

alot of people have been asking what kind of guys am i looking at or for, and i am definitly looking for someone who is trusting, caring compassionate and likes me for me, there obviously needs to be some sort of physical attraction but im not interested in any Brad Pitt of Orlando Bloom here, just someone i can connect with.

I dont have great pictures but you can check out my myspace if you'd like, its www.myspace.com/blondie21888

Answer 1

Men don't mature untill the're 27. I saw on another one of your questions that you're 18. At 18 and 19, men are just coming down from the peak of their immaturity. I saw a study somewhere that says men don't fully mature until around 27, compared to girls who hit maturity around 19 or 20.

So you're probably looking at the couples your age while relying on a study that probably included men between 18 and 65 (the typical study group). Look at older couples in the mall or on the street. If they're over 30 or so, men don't have the "model, toothpick" girls anymore, they have real women.

A size 10 isn't that big at all anyway! So just wait around a couple more years and you'll slowly start seeing the men come to you. Especially when you get to college or in the workforce, when people start looking for actual real, lifetime partners, and not just "sexy flings" or "trophy girlfriends" or anything.

And by the way, don't listen to cyanne2ak, it DOES NOT sound like you have any kind of lack of self-esteem, you even said that you have a great personality and you're not shy or anything. If someone had a problem with themselves, they wouldn't say that. And you don't ""obviously base your worth on whether or not you have a man""!! You don't need psychological help! Just be happy with who you are and men will see that self-confidence radiate from you (note that I said MEN, not boys lol).

Answer 2

I know what you mean - it seems like people like rail thin girls more than round girls, and while it seems that on the surface that's what they want, I actually think that it's the illusion that they want. Unless a girl is natrually skinny, she's going to be a lot more high maintenance, and in the end, they won't want the skinny girl, instead they'll want someone who is fun loving and comfortable.

Then I move to my second point - men notice confidence. They really, really do. My mom has always been a large woman, but she's never had a problem getting men because she exudes confidence. Maybe the thinner ladies that you're seeing with men are very confident and secure and men see that. I know that not many men will want to be with someone who needs to be constantly reassured.

Try to love yourself the way you are. You'll find that either a: you'll lose some weight without meaning to, or b: you'll start seeing yourself in a different light and really start appreciating the gifts that you do have.

Answer 3

You should not worry so much about yourself. If you are size 10, you are in perfect shape. This is great size.
If you think you are a little too big, then try to loose weight by eating less and exersizing more.
When you get to size 4, you will see that there will be no difference.
As a man I am telling you that size is really does not matter.
When I got merried my wife was size 10, no after 13 years being together and after our daughter she is size 16. So what? She is trying to loose weight once in a while. But overall she is happy.
The only reason she want to loose weight is to feel better and stay healthy. That is all.
In your case you do not need to worry. Trust me, your prince will find you and you will live happy!!!

Answer 4

I find that you meet men who like a realistic looking woman as they get older. Many start to get tired of the games they have played in their younger years and start looking for a mate that complements them. Now that mate may or may not be slim, it is up to the man. I was very thin when I was younger, but as I grew, I became curvy. I then began to meet men that were attracted to "a thick girl." That wasnt all it was cracked up to be either.

Rather than look for a man who is in to be because of my size or body type, I rather look and attract men who place more inphasis on who I AM, rather than my physical appearance.

I have found over the years that men are attracted to confidence. I have always had hips/thighs and never really had a problem attracting men, much to the dismay of some of my (former) skinny friends.

I am currently seeing a guy now who usually dates the skinny chicks, but for some reason, cant figure out why he is attracted to me lol.

If you decided to lose weight, do it for yourself, not to attract men. and a size 10, lol, you aren't full figured lady, you are average lol. I am a 12/14 and full figured women laugh at me when I tell them I am full figured. But honestly, you dont have to label yourself full figured/average/plus sized/skinny, as long as you are healthy and alive, love yourself and embrase your beauty.

You will probably get people answering your questions, saying,you are out of shape and use being full figured as an excuse yadda yadda yadda. Well this not-so-thin girl, can do 90 min of cardo w/o losing her breath, hack squat 120 lbs and I just moved 6 yards of landscaping rock by my damn self in two days. Find me one of those hollywood biotches that can do that lol. Do you girl, and you will find men that want to "do you" too LOL.

Answer 5

They are hiding in the same place where all the women that "just want to settle down with a nice guy" are.

I can't even count how many times that I got dumped in college with the line, "You are such a nice guy." Most of the time the girl went on to date a real jackass, and 4 times specifically the guy they left me for ended up being abusive and beat them.

Answer 6

I really don't know alot of guys that don't like skinny women/girls. I'm not a "full figured" woman nor am i a toothpick. I'm not too skinny (i don't think). And i feel comfortable about myself. So basically, it's all about self-confidence and i think self-esteem but if you feel comfortable about yourself then you shouldn't change for anyone.

Answer 7

Look elsewhere! Are you looking at the nice guys? The ones that are maybe a little nerdy? A little overweight? Need help with their wardrobe? If you are more open to some imperfection you may get lucky and find the man of your dreams.

Answer 8

I'm a size 16 and was asked for a "booty call" this weekend (declined!). So, I guess we might be good for a romp, but maybe the guys would rather have a twig on their arm in public, and a padded girl in the bedroom.

Answer 9

You should see a psychiatrist immediately. You have some serious psychological problems and a basic lack of self esteem. You obviously base your worth on whether or not you "have a man", and that isn't healthy.

Answer 10

Your problem is not your weight, its your self-image. They say the average size for women these days is 14. Its easy to blame the guys. Many of them are only interested in appearance, but I say "Who needs them?"