It was stupid and a giant mistake. I'll never do it again! No excuses, I screwed up but should I tell her?
2006-07-11 06:38:29 · 26 answers · asked by DAVID D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Telling her only hurts her and help you with your guilty conscience. The old saying of "What they don't know won't hurt them." is what you should consider here. If things were that bad, maybe you should have gotten a divorce first. That would hurt her less than finding out sometime in the future.
2006-07-11 06:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by Thrasher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. You should keep no secrets from your wife. You can tell her that it was on accident, and it will never happen again. If you are a christian family you should not have done it . It would be the right thing to do. If you really love each other she will understand. You should ask God that she would understand. We all make mistakes. And it was a huge mistake. Just tell the girl that is not your wife that you have a wife and would not like to have a relation ship. If my husband ever cheated on me and asked for forgiveness I would smile and say that he was the bravest man in the world.
Keep encouraging her that she is the best wife in the world.
2006-07-11 13:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You did the deed and you will have to live with it. What would be the point in telling her? a divorce? hurt feelings? The point of telling her would be to relieve your own guilt about the situation. If this is a true one time mistake then you can overlook it and move on. If you tell her it will alter your relationship forever. Tell no one, not even friends because this may bite you in the long run. You made the bed, you lie in it. This is a secret you must keep to yourself. You must live with the guilt if you really love your wife and dont want to hurt her.
2006-07-11 13:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by adrixia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer this question, "Would you like to know if you ever cheated on you"? You can't just continue your life with her, and put this right behind you because it's only going to come back to haunt you! Tell her. Accept the consequences. If your truely are sorry then why would you lie to her, or keep something like this from her. I personally think as a woman that it's the worst thing you can do. I know that there's temptations,and unfortunately me and woman fall for them and most of them regret it like you, but you should of thought about it better and now what you need to do is be sincere and just pray that she'll forgive you. Prove to her that you're truely are sorry and try to win her back, but it won't be easy.SO PLEASE TELL HER THE TRUTH!
2006-07-11 13:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by Maria A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her you have the risk of losing her. If you don't tell her you will feel guilty and wish that you did tell her. You should tell her exactly what you just said under your question. Also try to figure out why you cheated? What made you cheat? It could be something that you two are missing like spending time together or putting other priorities first when you two should work on your two. Good luck.
2006-07-11 13:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by strawberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never volunteer anything, leave the skeletons in the closet. Once you tell her, she will ALWAYS throw it back in your face even years later. Just keep it to yourself and TRY not to make it a habit.
However, if she should ever ask, honesty is the best policy. But again, you may never live it down.
2006-07-11 13:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't tell why should she have to live the rest of her life in pain because of something you did, but I will tell you from experience you will never be able to let it go because you have not cleared your feelings. You should be the one to suffer not her and by not telling her you are saving her feelings but you will pay for the rest of your life. I am still bothered by what I did to my ex. and I am no longer with him.
2006-07-11 13:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not tell her. It may make you feel better by telling her, but why put all that on her.
Suck it up, live with it and if you feel so bad about it, NEVER do it again.
2006-07-11 13:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been their done that. i cheated on my spouse once and i told him we ended up separated over the ordeal. but he eventually forgave me for it and we ended up back together. so be honest and open tell your spouse. no sense in holding it in cause it will end up coming out eventually.
2006-07-11 13:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that seriously depends if she finds out you will be in big trouble and it will take her longer to forgive you if ever but if you tell her before she finds out some other way she may be more open to forgiving you faster but you will have to earn her trust back i hope all works out well for you and your wife
2006-07-11 13:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋