that i found out is because he had the nerve to call my sister and ask her if she was gonna be working, my sister said no and he said good because he didnt want her to be there. my sister told me and im so upset but i dont want to hurt my mom. she would prob. leave him for something like that. plus he dosnt even buy her groceries, and he has money to be spending at a strip club. i dont know what to do, i feel so guilty for not telling my mom but i dont want to hurt her, what should i do?
2006-07-11 06:38:25 · 19 answers · asked by 2_good_2_be_true;) 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK DEAR, I AM A MOMMY AND IT WOULD HURT ME WORSE FOR ONE OF MY KIDS TO KNOW OF THIS AND NOT TELL ME THAN TO TELL ME THIS KNOWING IT. YEAH, IT MAY HURT HER FEELINGS BUT, SHE WILL KNOW IT ISN'T YOUR FAULT IT IS ALL HIS FAULT FOR DOING HER LIKE THAT! SOUNDS TO ME THEY HAVE PROBLEMS ANYWAY. IF HE CAN GO AND BLOW MONEY ON STRIPPERS AND NOT SUPPORT HIS FAMILY THEN MAYBE SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE HIM ... HE SURE ISN'T THE ONLY FISH IN THE SEA!!! TELL HER...IT IS FOR THE BEST...JUST THINK IF SHE WENT INTO THE GROCERY STORE AND RAN INTO SOMEONE THAT KNEW HE WAS THERE AND TOLD HER, DON'T YOU THINK IT WOULD EMBARRASS HER THAT WAY? SO, IT WOULD BE BEST TO GO AHEAD AND LET HER KNOW NOW!
2006-07-11 06:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definetly tell her. She has a right to know. There are a lot of other strip clubs he could have gone to also. Why is he chosing the one your sister works at? Think about that. I would tell her everything. If he is already not buying groceries and spending money at a strip club, it would benefit her to leave him. She needs to realize she can do better than that and even if she left him, she doesn't have to have a man to feel good. Tell her how you feel. Let her make her own decision though. She is an adult.
2006-07-11 06:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am understaning this right, your sister works at the strip club the mom's husband went to. So does this guy have something with your sister that would make her not tell your mom that he was going there? Is this guy your sister's dad? And is your Mom your sister's mom? It just seems to me like Mom's husband has no brain cells - why wouldn't he go to another strip club and not get any of you kids involved?
My advice - TELL YOUR MOM! It will be a lot better if you tell her than if she finds out you knew and didn't tell her. And trust me, she WILL find out. Why potentially hurt your relationship with your mom just to cover for this creep?
2006-07-11 06:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by someone,somewhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Butting in is never good, even when your heart is in the right place. Surely this man has done other things he keeps from your mother. One strip club night out is surely not his first time,nor will it be his last.
Your mother probably doesn't believe him all the time, if he has lied before, unless she is in denial. Perhaps you could talk to the husband and find out if he is going to make a habit of this and tell him how hurt your mom would be to know he is being so secretive.
I pray for you all, dear one.
2006-07-11 06:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 04:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by clapperton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my mom but I know my mom will believe me but if you feel that your mom will not then get proof somehow. If it was by phone try to figure out how to record it. get someone that can drive and go down there and take a picture of his or her vehicle with the name of the place together. Surely, your mom know both vehicles and license plates and saw where it was parking at then she should believe you. I think it will be out of the question to go inside and take a pic so outside one would be just better. Hope you got a digital one this way you won't have to wait to have it develop.
2006-07-11 06:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by Paula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not a big problem , men go to strip clubs all the time . If he called your sister surely he is not worried that your mom will know
2006-07-11 06:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I understanding you right your sister works at the stip club. What is the big deal then. Its a strip club not a free for all sex room right. Tell your mom, she wont hate you just him.
2006-07-11 06:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business,its your moms husband not yours.Just like you when you had a boyfriend you wanted your mom out of your business do the same!!I'm sure if you run your mouth it will just cause problems between all 3 of you,and it isn't worth it.Your mom isn't dumb I'm sure and in time she will figure out something isn't right in this relationship the same as you or i even do.We women know when something just ain't right.Give your mom time and you will see let her be the one to find out and see for herself because like all women too we have to see to believe and if she loves this man believe me she isn't going to leave him just on what she heard you or anybody else say.SO as hard as it is and i know its your mom let it go its her life be there for her let her know you care and she can talk to you anytime about anything but offer only that not your brash opinions good luck !!
2006-07-11 06:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok sweetie, go to your mom in a non-judgemental way. your mom has to make the final decision. sit down with her and tell her that you would never try to hurt her. And explain to her that the reason that you are confiding in her is because she you don't want her to be hurt. and that you would feel guilty if you held this in. I am quite sure that your mother would respect the fact that you are trying to protect her.
2006-07-11 06:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋