My wife of a few years just informed me that she had a romantic interlude with a rival of mine. It happened when we werre still dating. He was having problems with his girlfriend and so were my then girlfriend and I. Up until that point, she had me believing that I was the only one who had ever made her c*** before. They didn't get past the "rolling" stage, and had arranged before they started of what was ok and what was not ok. She knew this guy hated the very ground I walked on, but still did it anyway. My question is, even if it's "rolling", where you do everything but the deed, is it still considered sex, especially if one or both parties reaches orgasm? I'm having a hard time looking her in the face for this betrayal. When we were apart, the women I dated had no relationship/meaning to her. This guy had history with me. I feel like she went into "scorched earth" territory when she laid down with him. What do you think? P.S., she's watching to see what results come back.
2006-07-11 06:37:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would be terribly upset. After all, she knew you 2 didn't like each other and she waited too long to tell you. Only you know wether or not you can get past this. I would say it's sex whether it's f**king, s**king, or eating. It seems she could have found anyone else. You may try counseling but there are some things you can't get over. I don't know what I'd do in your situation. I don't think I could get over it. I wish you luck.
2006-07-11 06:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by goddess17 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It happened at a time when the two of you were dating other people. Grow up and get over it!
And for Mrs. enemy: Why are you telling him this NOW? Leave the past where it belongs or it will reach out and bite you!
2006-07-11 13:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by tiggyman41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened before marriage let it go and focus on the present. I know it hurts trust me,The guy knew what he was doing and he will reap what he sowed.Life is to short to hold on to past problems.If you love her forgive her and you be the bigger person and not repeat that act while you are married.You will never know what really went on because no one will tell the whole truth.Just work on the relationship and focus on now.If she's really sorry she will try to help you work through your feels.Good luck to you and if it's worthy fighting for fight.
2006-07-11 13:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had that little regard for your feelings, whether you were apart or not, it definitely reflects on her in a bad way. However have you ever thought she was mad and wanted to get back at you? Thats really no excuse, but haven't you even done stupid things when you're really mad? If you love her, let it go. And if you just can't let it go, well then how much do you really love her?
2006-07-11 13:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH GROW UP - She married you. If she didn't have intercourse and the two of you were on a "break" - why should it matter.
How was she to know if the two of you would end up together of not? Did you expect her to be celebate until either of you decide it was going to be or not be?
If you love her and she loves you - go on with your lives and get over the fact that it happened while the two of you were apart. She didn't do it to hurt you.
2006-07-11 18:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...I have to agree with you, that was a pretty rotten thing to do...but..the past is past. If you and your wife truly LOVE one another you need to try to get over this. And "REVENGE" is NOT the answer. Try and remember the day you got married and the love you felt for her. If all else fails...spank her evil butt! lol
2006-07-11 13:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened when you were not together, then it has nothing to do with you. If you really cannot forgive this, maybe you should split before the bitterness that is obviously inside you rots the person she is with away beyond recognition.
2006-07-11 13:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it , past is past, any type of physical handeling is sex, but past is past , if still she is with u,forget the past and enjoy the present. She had right to be with anybody when u were not with her , before marriage.
2006-07-11 14:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by drasitvaishnav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is hot and not a bxtch - get over it, or I might become your new worst enemy.... ;o)
2006-07-11 13:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would class it as sex, but i think you should get over it, it happened years ago and you wern't married then.
2006-07-11 13:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋