i have been married for 22yrs and im not happy,as a christian can i divorce and remarry again someday?

Answer 1

You need to read Created to be his Helpmeet by Debi Pearl.
Some of the things are a tad over the top for me.. but that is probably some of my rebellious human nature kicking in.. but I think you will find it a help.

The bible is clear. Divorce other than for reasons of adultery is not condoned by God.

You weren't clear as to your reasons for unhappiness. But God made it clear that how we treat our husbands is to be a reflection of our love for HIM. No matter the husbands human falability.

Now is the time that you should dig in and hold steadfast and surround yourself with strong Christian women who are married who can support you and help guide you through this rough spot.

Best wishes to you. I hope in a few months or a year you will look back and be thankful that you overcame this rough spot!

Answer 2

As a christian you would naturally look to the bible for those answers from God, your father. Christianity if not merely a belief, but a way of life.

On remaining together: Mark 10:6-9; 1 Cor 7:10, 11; Rom 7:2, 3

Only one christian ground for divorce: Matt 5:32; Matt 19:9; 1 Cor 7:39.

Any other teaching or allowances are not from God.

Answer 3

Mary Ellen G. is very correct and I'm sure you knew the answer to that already. Have you sought Christian Counseling? Have your read the book Power of a Praying Wife? I believe the author is Stormie Omaritan?? Have you tried to surround yourself with positive Christian Couples? Do you have a married couples ministry at your place of worship? This type of ministry focuses on any and all issues that come up in a marriage (financial, sexual, attitudes, love languages, resouces, children, behavior etc) It provides resouces and very helpful information that aide couples as well as holding them accountable to God and to one another in love.

God cares about your obedience to Him and His Word. You stated "you're not happy" Wow! Don't fool yourself into believing that you can re-marry someone else and "be happy" because unfortunately you're part of the issue. Unfortunately, no matter where you go and who you're with the "You" factor will still be there. Don't let people in this world fool you with their ungodly solutions/fixes/advice because it will never bring you happiness. When we obey God (rather than man) we can NEVER go wrong and you will be blessed. He cares about our salvation... and in the Bible there are no statements that read "Thou shalt be happy in this world of sin". The mere idea is a sad joke at best. And while there are many moments in this life where happiness comes and there are moments of sunshine and beauty... never forget, this earthly place is "NOT" our true home. A true Christians that all who live Godly shall suffer persecution, temptation, and trials.

That being said however, if this person is abusive (verbally/physically) you owe it to yourself to keep from danger, seek help and stay out of harms way. Prayer is POWERFUL. Talk to the Lord... he already knows how you feel but, tell Him you need Him to revive your marriage and help you in this. He's more than able. We have not... because we ask not. And when we ask... we should never ask and then doubt that He can come through on our behalf. There is NOTHING too hard for God.... including your marital issues.

Answer 4

What are you reasons for divorce? Unless he has cheated on you or is abusing you, then no.

As harsh as this is, God never said that he wants us to be happy at all costs. You said your vows. They were for life and the best thing you can do is remain true to your vows. Try to make a connection with your husband once again and make it work. It would probably be a lot easier than getting back into the dating scene.

Answer 5

Life is tooooo short to be miserable. I don't care what your religion is or says, it's a personal question. Follow your faith and be unhappy (is that what it tells you to do?) or divorce, and remarry later if you want... Hope that doesn't sound too cranky, but I'm tired of people following their religion to the letter and being miserable for it!

Answer 6

As a person you can do what you want if you can honestly say to yourself I did eveything I could to make it work and yours still not happy you should move on I'm sure there's someone out that can make you really happy good luck

Answer 7

What do you mean by "not happy?" Marriage is not about being "happy" all the time. Happiness comes with work and lots of giving of yourself. Leah in the Bible was not happy because she was not the one her husband loved, but she was faithful to her marriage and prayed to God about her situation. God honored her obedience by blessing her with her children. God wants you to continually pray to Him about your situation and have faith that He will fix it. If your husband is not a Christian just continue to pray for him and be faithful to the vows you made.

Answer 8

YES, YOU SURE CAN. GOD WANTS YOU TO BE HAPPY. HE DOESN'T WANT US TO BE SAD OR MAD ALL THE TIME THAT IS WHAT CAUSES SO MUCH IN THIS WORLD NOW I BELIEVE ALOT OF PEOPLE ARE UNHAPPY AND NOT SATISFIED WITH THEIR LIVES. IF YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 22 YEARS AND STILL AREN'T HAPPY THEN GET A DIVORCE BECAUSE THAT ISN'T FAIR TO YOU OR YOUR SPOUSE. LIFE IS TOOOOOOOOOO SHORT TO LIVE IT MISERABLE...GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 9

Yes, Pooh. You can. And if you want a date look me up. I'm about leave my wife of 32 years and I could take care of you. Lots of money and still holding down a good job. File your papers now.

Answer 10

Happyness is something you find within yourself. It's not something someone else can give you, nor is it something you can purchase. Maybe you should find out why you are unhappy before you make any major life changing decisions.