to another city to get away from "bad influences" and is in AA again and a church 12 step program to stay sober.. he is on probation from DUI, Susp. License & hit & run, his aunt gave him a place to live and her husband gave him a job... which to me isn't really living in the real world and learning to cope... anyone have any thoughts to share on this situation..
2006-07-11 06:25:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i just would think after being in rehab for 6 months that you would need to take some time to get your bearings, for the first 6 weeks he was there all he talked about was us getting back together and then 2 weeks ago he says he has a girlfriend... that his love changed in the space of a few days and I am confused..
2006-07-11 06:31:40 · update #1
give him some space and time. when he gets over his problem and adjusts and that will not be before a long time.. he needs to stay sober for at least a year and try to do it on his own and assess his own feelings before you get involved with him so you don't get hurt.. the aunt and husband are good people, God bless them. they are only trying to help. i hope he makes it..
2006-07-11 06:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
The Aunt is wise.
There's an old saying; You hang around dogs you'll catch their fleas.
A person who is fragile and trying to change a bad habit has to be removed from the temptation at all costs. After they are feeling comfortable in a new lifestyle they can slowly be integrated into influences of substances of abuse and feel comfortably say no.
It doesn't take much at this delicate time to fall off the wagon. The Aunt has made a great choice and you should thank a higher power that he has her.
2006-07-11 13:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I dont think people giving you things counts as dealing with things on your own. Give him a break though if his aunt and uncle want to help him out by giving him a step up take it. If his heart is into stoping the using then he should be able to do it, but if its not no matter what program he's in it wont work. He has to want to stop and make that choice everyday if he want to stay clean, It all up to him
2006-07-11 13:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is to not get involved with this person. He is not yet stable, and unless you are willing to accept that(him) as he is, don't get involved. There is a decent chance he will start drinking again, a lot do. We used to take my daddy to rehab, and he would get drunk on the way home from picking him up. Good Luck!
2006-07-11 13:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus would never have done a 12 step program. His step is only one-humbling ourselves as sinners before him.
Your friend will probably not succeed in rehab unless he turns to God.
"Unless the Lord build the house, they labor in vain who build it."
2006-07-11 13:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by moondrop000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy him a book called "The Power of NOW" by Eckhart Tolle. Tell him to read it over and over ... to use it as a reference. This may transform him into a spiritual person without being attached to any belief system.
2006-07-11 13:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by ProArtWork 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is strong willed and really wants to change his life he will stay sober, however most of the time they end up relapsing and going right back to where they were...
2006-07-11 13:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything is possible,the guy needs help,if the aunt and uncle don't drink, it may be OK watch him close.if you care, help him he does need all the help he can get,the best thing was move and start over,but its possible, he need friends that don't drink,if he was in upstate NY i could get him some good help from a friend here,he has help alot of people here
2006-07-11 13:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by tay3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋