Why do women let their body go and lose interest in sex after marriage. Spare the romance answers!?

Answer 1

Because their husbands turn into jerks and the women turn to food......

Answer 2

Chilbearing changes your body and your psyche. Kids ussually come after marriage, so is not like you can blame matrimony, but rather blame maternity.

After having babies, hips become bigger and sometimes it takes a long time to shed off the extra pounds. If you stay at home taking care of the babies there is no time for working out and balanced meals when you have a pile of laundry and 20 diapers to change a day. Psysical exhaustion, hormonal changes are to blame for the decrease in libido. Natural maternal instinct changes the way women think, and it goes from all about the partner to all about the baby.

Men don;t have any biological or mental changes with paternity and their needsa and way of thinking remain the same. Men shopuld be considarete and understand that children change the dynamics of a relationship.

Women normally neglect themselves after childbirth and uncounciosly neglect their partners as well. It's a periood of adjustment and is very hard to be a mom, a lover and a housekeeper at the same time ewhen before the only concern was to make it on time for your nail appoitment.

So I say, is not marriage fault and all women adjust differently. Good luck

Answer 3

Well they feel like they have who they want now so they dont have to starve theierselfes or work out as much or wear as much makeup or even fix their hair all the time,and one big reason is having children,when u have babies believe me your lucky to even get in the shower at times its one heck of a job you men dont take in consedration.And i know many men who let theirselves go as well!!It isnt just women.But if you had a child and u run after it all day clean house cook supper do clothes be super mom and super wife the last thing when your head hits the pillow is long hott sex get real.Your job last 8 hours you punch out and your home to sit on your *** all night resting.A womans job never ends its 24/7,i wish i could sit on mine and say oh well kids sorry i done put my 8 hours in im done for the night,your problem is your a sorry husband and your all about you and your selfish,why dont u help your wife with kids or housework give her more a break so she can take more time forherself and maybe feel like something when she goes to bed.If you try that u might get more in bed about the weight why dont u help your wife and be nice about it and you should love her no matter what do you remember your vows or was sex the only thing on your mind,for better or worse is what mine said instead being a jerk help her talk to her tell her how u feel but like i said in a nice caring way that im sure is too hard for you,i think the best thing is your wife to read what you have wrote and hopefully she is smarter than you and leave your ***!!I wish the best for your wife and i hope she gets away from such a prick!!

Answer 4

We don't just let them go we just don't have time to work at it anymore. Between the laundry, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, and working a full time job, WHO the hell has the time or energy to even worry about an a** we don't even see. As for disinterest in sex well that is a myth we want it as much if not more then men we are just too damn tired at the end of the day, maybe if you did a 50/50 with the housework etc. she would be more interested, and go on a diet & exercise TOGETHER. It wouldn't kill You either.

Answer 5

Well just think about that for a minute. Women indure 9 months of carring another person. There bodies get stretched out of shape. Their hips become wider, they have stretchmarks. Life now isn't all about them or their husband. Now there are more important things to think about. Now ask yourself this. While women have a reason for their out of shape bodies. What reason do men have? My ex was 180lbs when I married him, now he's about 300lbs. Why? He never carried any of our kids. While I do have wider hips, I still look good, I'm at a good weight. Why doesn't he? As for sex. Women work looking after kids 24/7 as well as looking after their husband. You try working that much and then want sex. The good side of this is that while it's true it does happen. Lots of women do loose interest. It's not gone forever, it does come back and with a vengeance!

Answer 6

I never lost interest in sex and have been married 27 yrs. As for the body that went with the kids. You just don't have time to do everything. Take care of kids, clean house, work, grocery shop, run other errands and find time to exercise at a gym or even at home. There is always someone or something that needs tending to. Exercise is the last on the list and by the time you get to it your beat. I don't like being the shape I am in but at least my husband never says anything about it even if he would like me thinner. I guess that is why we have been married 27yrs because we except each other for who they are not what they are.

Answer 7

Some do but most of us don't. Usually let bodies go is because the person has a mate and shouldn't have to work hard at impressing anyone..they know they have a mate that should love them no matter what...however they should stay healthy! Sex wise not really sure there other than some people loose their sex drive as they get older doesn't mean just because they are married, you have to learn how to "spice" it up if that happens.

Answer 8

I dont know if its just sex after marriage because after I had my child i lost interest as well. I dont know if its phycological or hormonal. But, people , both men and women, get too comfortable in their situations and you dont think about doing the things you once did to romance the person you are with. Its like i got them now so what if I dress nice or do this or do that, but then that ties into things you have to do to keep that person from straying away. you cant just stop because you have married them, you have to keep it going if you want it to be a hppy marriage...... it's all up to the individual, they will either do what they have to do to keep you happy or like you said they will just let themselves go.

Answer 9

We'll some women have children and it's hard to loose the weight afterwards. The are too tired for sex after taking care of the children and house all day. And some Men let themselves go too. Marriage vowels say for better or worse!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 10

First I haven't let my self go and I love sex with my husband and would 2-3x's a day if we could.
From what I have seen and heard it is not about they have him and so they no longer care. It is simply because when before they were married they were courted and made to believe they were the single most beautiful woman on earth. They were the center of their man's life, got the flowers for no reason, the cards for no reason, the staring into one another's eyes, the closeness, the being of one. After a year or so. It all stops. Their husbands "have them" so they no longer carry on their duty to court her, be close to her, do all the things he did before. Then you have the babies, the husbands taking in the eyecandy right in front of you-disrespectful!, more time working, friends, every day life. Their wives are no longer their number one priority and so the wife starts to feel insecure, less attractive, low self-esteem, no connection with their husband, no time with their husband. Then they say "what the hell, he doesn't care or he would atleast try, he doesn't find me attractive any longer or he wouldn't take in all the eyecandy right in front of me, he doesn't appreciate the love that I have for him." To sum it up. They feel taken for granted, not appreciative, not loved, not attractive to their spouse so they give up. They get the "who gives a sh** attitude." just my opinion...

Answer 11

They feel that they are secure in there relationship and forget that their man still wants them to look hot. The losing sex after marriage is a hard one, sometimes you get more tired than other times.