Women only...?

Question

How do I ask my wife to lose weight. first it was a little over weight now it's turned into 50lbs over.

Answer 1

If you love her, her weight won't matter to you, if it is just about looks. But if it is for health issues and your genuinely concerned for her get special foods and exercise with her.

Answer 2

Start the conversation by saying that it might be nice if we do something together to become more healthy. Talk about how the two of you could change some of your eating habits. Maybe eliminate a few things that you know are high in fat and are empty calories and add some good healthy choices. Pick an activity you both can do and could enjoy together and do it on a regular basis. It might be simply taking a walk each evening after dinner. If you have dogs take the dogs for a walk it's good for them too. My husband and I use to do that. We both had our own dog and we'd all go for a walk in the evenings. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Sometimes people gain weight when they are overeating to cover something that is bothering them. Before moving to the physical right away, talk to her to see if she is happy. Is everything okay in her life and in your relationship? Is she depressed about something? What has changed?

If nothing is wrong with her emotionally, you should be frank with her and tell her that she has gained weight and you're concerned about her health. Assure her that you love her, but be honest. Every now and then, we may need someone to catch us from losing ourselves.

Support her and change the way you both eat. Buy healthy foods and cook smart. Take walks together and talk. Do more active activities together that will help with her weight but also bring another dimension into your marriage that is positive.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Don't ask!!!! Take her on long walks, go swimming, Do these things with her, If you really love your wife, Its really hard to lose wight by yourself..I know..But even tell her that you want to lose some weight and want to start eating better, something like that, but just be real careful, how you say it it could cause a really bad affect and make her gain even more weight if your not gentle with the situation..

Answer 5

Well...this is a tough one. But maybe you should approach her by telling her that you BOTH should start eating healthier and exercise more. Maybe you can both go walking after dinner every night. Cook healthier meals and eat in. If you say that you want to do it for the both of you it probably would not be so bad. Don't tell her that she needs to loose weight... I am sure she has noticed the weight too. Just be there for her and let her know if she is willing to start working on her weight issue you will be there right by her side. Good luck.

Answer 6

first of all how much is too much overweight? is she petite, tall, big boned? what? i think you should talk to a nutritionist first to find out ways to do things to exercise and what to eat. tell your wife that your more concerned about both your health,especially if your getting a little older? not sure how old you both are... but just make it a couple thing. she shouldn't deal with this on her own. if it bothers you so much then help her. some women are sensitive about weight, i really don't care but if my husband told me at least for my health then i would listen because he cares enough to keep me around longer... just make it fun and you both might be more energized and do anything. walk the park,the mall,tell her to go shopping for awhile to walk. ride bikes, go hiking. play tennis or basketball. have a small BBQ then invite friends to play softball or basketball.
my husband actually told me what your asking about. i didn't care i just thought i do need to do something about my health. you live once and some things that happen to your body cant be redone or replaced.just don't tell her she's fat and look disgusted at the same time...

Answer 7

Does she tell you she hates being fat? Is she a stay at home mom? Well tell her you would like to help her by supporting her. Do things such as exercising, walks, go shopping with her and help her make better food choices, as her if she would like to get in some kind of club, go golfing, hiking, keep telling her she is beautiful, renew your wedding vows - that may make her want to loose the weight to look good in a dress. Get a dog - that may get her out of the house more. Drinking lots of water and no pop or alcohol helps. Stop watching the TV. I could go on but the main thing is that you love her for who she is. Good luck.

Answer 8

Perhaps you could make this into a fun competition. Both of you go on diets, work out together and at the end of a pre-set time whomever has lost the most gets to pick a "gift" or prize from the other. Be sure you let her know that you are concerned for her health and you love her no matter what...... You do don't you??

Answer 9

Weight is a very sensitive subject for most women who have gained some over the years for whatever reason. You should talk to her very lovingly and remind her what she looked like when you married her. Let her know you still love her, but her weight is affecting your ability to make love to her. You can tell her that you are not attracted to her at her current weight. It may seem harsh, but most women act like they don't understand when a man loses interest...

If you tell her, she can NEVER say, she didn't know how you felt; when you start to step out on her.

Answer 10

This is touchy subject you don't want to upset her. Tell her very delicately for you may open a whole new can of worms you aren't ready for. Besides there maybe other reasons for the gain emotionally. First tell her you are concerned with OUR health. Maybe we should start eating more healthy and excercise together. Maybe pick up cycling, tennis, something together. Even if you don't need to work out it will make her feel good. Plus you spend time together. BUT if that don't fly just tell her LOOK I love you and want to be with you always I am just concerned TALK to me and we will do whatever together.

Answer 11

There is no right way to ask anyone to loose weight, unless you have a discussion about your concern about their health. Even if this is the topic, it is still a sensitive and private matter. First, look at your reasons for wanting to ask her to loose weight. Why is this so important? Are you overweight yourself? I would really just have a open heart to heart with her when you know what the reasons are. Tell her why yo really would like her to loose wait. For instance, tell her you would like for her to loose weight because it affects the way you respond to her, your relationship is getting strained - in clear language without hinting or jokes.