men only......need help preparing a speech to give to the judge?

Question

i have a custody hearing for my 2 boys and I need help putting together a speech to make the judge realize that I want my boys because i love them. at the first hearing i was not present because i was working, well this is my chance to show that I do want my sons....can someone make some suggestions please.

Answer 1

Okay I know I'm not a dude, but I have a child who's father never did a damn thing when I went to court for custody issues. If he had shown up, I would have wanted to hear him say he would do anything for his daughter. I would have wanted to hear him say he loved her above all else in this world. I would have wanted to hear him say he'd always be there for her, even if he only got to see her once a month.

But he didn't show, and he's never said any of those things. If you love your sons, you need to apologize for not showing up for the first hearing, let the judge know you were working to provide for them, and that you will always be there to help raise them, no matter what. And don't say anything bad about their mother.

Answer 2

First -- You must realize something -- Judges do not care about you or your X and they only care mildly about your children.

Second -- Anything you state on your own behalf must be in support of the 12 Points of Child Custody. These Points are available from your local Friend of The Court Office.

You should go down each of the 12 Points are clearly state why you qualify for the Point and why your X does not qualify for the point. DO NOT bullsh*t the Judge re: your X's qualification on any Point. If she is qualified, say nothing on that Point.

The Judge will decide custody based on the 12 Points awarding Points to both you and your X as arguments are heard. Whoever has the most points wins. The person with current custody (whether as a result of an Order or temporary Order) wins all ties.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Explain to the judge that you are a fit parent because you have a stable job, Bring a letter from your employer stating how long you have worked there, let the judge know thate reasons you feel you deserve to AT LEAST have joint custody, let him know that you are a good role model and that just because the kids are going through a touugh time right now that you want them to understand that just because you and their mom are splitting up that BOTH of you still love your boys VERY much and you dont want them to think that this means that you are going to let them go as well..... But also, throw in there that even though you will be co-parenting from different households you will still stick to the same rules and consequences as there were before so that things dont get too messy, This way the judge understands that while you are a loving and caring father, your not going to slack off in the department of "whos the better parent" by letting them get away with murder, He will se you as a stable parent who is just looking for his childrens best interest!!

Answer 4

If I assume you are sincere, then I think you need to explain why you didn't appear at the first hearing. "I was working" just doesn't do anything for me.

"I want my boys" sounds more like a competitition between you and your ex. I ain't convinced you're the best person for the job of raising them, frankly.

But I think that's your challenge, to get across to the judge why it's better for THE BOYS to be in your custody. What is your plan for them? Oh, and forget the speeches until you get elected to something.

I know, you still think it's all about you.

Good Luck

Answer 5

1st of all if you are already separated and she has the boys, it will be very hard to get custody unless you prove her unfit.
2nd you better be spending all your free time with them a judge looks at actions more than listening to what you have to say.
I got custody of my first 2 kids and had them for five years before I married again and if she would have had them during the divorce, I know the outcome would have been different. If you file for joint custody your odds would be better because you would seem more reasonable

Answer 6

First off- Other people don't need to give you a speech about your children that is what you have to do. It has to come from your heart on the way you love your 2 boys someone else writing it for you is not your feelings. If you love them then you could write it.or dictate what you feel to a relative or friend.

Answer 7

Be sure to tell the judge why you love your boys, and not just because you are their dad. Bring up personality things that shows the court you are an interested parent.
Stay away from being critical of the other parent, as the focus should be on why you want them, and if it's to only get them away from their mom, that won't generally cut it in court.
Most of all, just be yourself. The court can usually tell if you have scripted everything to sound good.
It's an uphill battle as courts tend to lean towards the female partner for custody. It's up to you to show the court you can secure there future financially, while being able to be physically present for them to handle their emotional needs.
Good Luck.

Answer 8

You would have to prove you would have a reliable babysitter while you are at work and prove you can provied a safe home for your sons. Paying for homestuding to show you can handle having your children. You can call the maybe children services to see about this. There would be a charge.

Answer 9

Why "men only"? Tell the judge that you love your sons very much and you will take care of them no matter what. You will do whatever it takes to give them a good education, to teach them good moral values, to be an excellent father and teach them to be one someday too.

Answer 10

First off you have express to the court that you will have ample time to be with your kids when they need you and that you can be there for them at all cost. And that you can give them a good healthy home both physically and morally. And that you can financially maintain a good house hold and that the kids would be better off in your custody in any circumstance