About a week and a half ago my last boyfirend and I broke up. We had been dating for 4 months. I cared for him deeply and did everything I could to save the relationship. However, he would no open up and talk about anything even after it was over. He stated" he was not ready for a relationship, and doesn't know when he will be". With that said I went out and that weekend and laid on the charm and flirted with the cute guys. I exchanged my number at least twice. Basically I got back out there in the dating pool. I now have several guys interested in me.
However, a friend stated to me "aren't you rushing things? Don't you need time to heal"? I guess she expected me to be in morning over my ex for a long period of time. Sit at home and eat myself into a a hippo. Was I wrong fro moving on so quickly. Refusing to allow this man who didn't want me anymore to ruin my chances of finding happiness? Can I not continue on in my life, and heal slowly as well?
2006-07-11 06:08:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
To the responder Shauna. You're response is unrelated to the question. Stay out of out business.
2006-07-11 07:37:06 · update #1
First off, you were not "wrong."
Most people who rush from one relationship right into dating have a couple false starts before finding a partner. I hope none of these new guys gets hurt, or that you don't get hurt by rushing without some reflection about your failed romance, but it won't be the end of the world.
Have fun and good luck.
2006-07-11 06:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I would say that it is abit too rush on your action. I mean, you are not wrong in dong what you are doing now, trying to get your life back to normal. And true, it is not worth crying over spilled milk. Happiness need to be found, and not the other way round.
But judging the way you are doing now, I feel that you will end up hurting yourself more than healing it. Worse, you might end up breaking someone's heart, like what your bf done to you. I would state that you are now in an emotional rollercoaster and in need to find someone to love and share your love too.....
Why not take some time to be alone for a while and analyse what went wrong with your current relationship? Who knows, you and your bf might get back together. If you still love him as you claim, don't give up easily and look for another one.
2006-07-11 06:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ristlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think you made the right choice. You made clear that you didn't want to wait around for him to make up his mind on whether he wanted a relationship or not. So be strong and show him that he lost out on a great guy. I just wish I moved on sooner with my last relationship.
2006-07-11 09:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel ready to move on, move on, I say.
If you were filling your life with meaningless men to make up the loss of your bf, I would say take it slow, but it doesn't seem like that's the reason you're back out there.
Have fun!
2006-07-11 06:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by cay_damay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever feels right for you. Don't pay too much attention on what other people think about YOUR life. I don't think what you're doing is wrong. Actually it's good, you're moving on and not being stuck in the past.
Good luck!
2006-07-11 06:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you got out of the relationship first, thats cool. You need to go on with your life. Too many people cheat and then get out of the relationship. Cheaters suc*!!!!!
2006-07-11 06:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by azgraywolf143 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can tell you how to heal or how long it will take you to heal...that's entirely individual to you and your situation.....it really isn't any of your friend's business and he/she should know so.
2006-07-11 06:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it ks, you weren't the one who called it quits. His loss not yours
2006-07-11 13:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Buga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right thing.
2006-07-11 06:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is ephemeral, If you don't live it now it will fade away.
2006-07-11 12:17:56 · answer #10 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋