Is getting married worth it anymore?

Question

With divorce as rampant as it is and financial ruin that runs along with that, is divorce killing the want to get married. Do any of you believe there is a marriage strike happening?

checked the statistics for Marriage and Divorce from one person's answer. 7.8 marriages per 1000 people, and 3.8 divorces per 1000 people, that's a 48% divorce rate---might as well flip a coin.

Answer 1

It's worth it if you have found the right one.

Answer 2

Seriously, I do not believe there is a marriage strike. As far as the high divorce rate in America, yes I'm sure it does scare some people from making the commitment. However, the marriage rate is much higher according to the NCHS data found on the website below. Additionally, what many people fail to realize is that marriage is hard work. Too many people divorce without working out issues that arise. Some may feel like it should always be perfect when we all know that life is never perfect. I am an advocate of marriage and have been through some issues with my spouse that could have broken us apart but we worked through it and have been married now for 10 years.

Answer 3

It's sad that people now-a-days don't marry for love. That's the big reason for such a high divorce rate. Think about it people are marrying for greed, wealth, fame, a house or nice car, kids, because they know no one else, just to carry the name. I mean there are so many stupid reasons people get married. Heck think about it. With enough alcohol and the right location (getting drunk in Vegas) some people walk away not even knowing they got married or why until later. Rude awakening huh?

Sorry I am a full supporter of getting married, but to the right person. If you marry for the right reasons then your chances of it working out and having a long prosperous happy life together are all more in your favor. Well I am happy to say I have found my soul mate. I got married for the right reasons. We were friends for years before ever getting together. And now that we are I could have never been happier or feel that I could have made a better choice. :)

Marriage is worth it. You just have to find the right person. Good luck. Don't let the numbers discourage you. Best wishes and happy hunting

Answer 4

it's worth it if you believe that it's worth it and found someone who has the same belief.

I think the problem today is thinking that marriage is a trial that doesn't have to last and everyone is forgetting that it's a lifelong committment.

Of course there are cases where divorce is necessary, such as abuse, but when people divorce because one wants a dog and the other doesn't or one wants to live in the city while the other wants the suburbs, the whole idea of divorce becomes ridiculous.

I don't know if there is a "marriage strike" happening, but i think that because a lot of the younger people see that their parents are divorced and the havoc it can cause, they become less likely to even want to get married....that's so unfortunate because i believe marriage can be a wonderful thing

Answer 5

Some marriages really do work out. It all depends on who you marry. From what I see, it's really helpful for engaged couples to get premarital counseling to make sure they're on the same page with everything. Yes, half of marriages end in divorce. But statistics show marriages have a much greater chance of working out if the couple has the same beliefs, similar lifestyles, and compatable goals. There gets to be a problem when one person wants kids and the other doesn't but they didn't discuss it before marriage...or one person's always going into credit card debt and the other hates charging things...or one's very religious and the other's an atheist...or one person thinks once they get married they'll move to the country and the other thinks they'll move to the city. There are a lot of things that need to be discussed beforehand, or false expectations easily lead to a failed marriage. Good marriages do exist, but good communication is essential.

Answer 6

I think a little bit yeah. Fear of divorce keeps a lot of people away from committment. But this could be a good thing in some fashion. People are being more careful about who they marry. They want to be sure that if they are going to make such an investment (monetarily and emotionally) they pick the right one. One who is going to work as hard as they will to be successful. I'm married and I know that before I met my husband I was extremely scrutinizing about the guys I dated. In fact I had been proposed to once before and said no. I loved the guy but wasn't sure yet how a marriage between us would work. It wasn't right in my mind or heart. When I met my husband I knew almost immediately that here was a man I could marry. And even then I tested the waters carefully. I have an innate fear of ending up like my parents and I was very careful about who I chose. I think this is becoming a trend for others as well.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, too many people are getting married for the wrong reasons, money, support, security, pregnant, all of this without the main ingredient, LOVE, still won't work. The four letter word "Love" can make you go through another word, "Hell", if things didn't start out right in the relationship. Marriages these days don't use that factor with trust, loyalty, & communication, which are all needed to make things work over years.

Answer 8

It is worth it. I am married to my best friend in the world and it is wonderful knowing that I can always talk to him about anything and knowing that he will always be there for me. We have both gone through our parents getting divorced, my mom is on her 3rd try, so we see what it does to family and we both have promised eachother that we will work it out no matter what. I think society is what makes the divorce rate so high. They make people feel like it's okay to give up if it gets hard.

Answer 9

No I don't believe that. I think that ppl get married way to young, me included!. I was married at 20, divorced at 37. When you marry young, you don't even know yourself yet. Your still growing up. Just because someone becomes legal age, doesn't mean they are mature enough to handle the responsibility of marriage. I tell my kids they shouldn't even think of marriage until late 20's, early 30's. That is my experience with my life.

Answer 10

Absolutley if it is true love. I stuck with my man thru his divorce 4years!!!!!!! It was rough we were broke he paid support to her after only being married to her for 2 years $145 a week!!! They had No kids!!! I have 2 young kids so that made it harder to survive. I had just gotten out of an abusive realtionship with my kids Father,and he had just gotten separated from a money hungry promiscuios older woman, so we were both pretty weary. But let me tell you we are getting married in 2007! His divorce went through finally and I am glad we made it! Never let bad experiences stop you from embracing the good ones!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

No, people still marry but for how long is the answer.....When you make 25+ years, then you know that you loved and were loved in return. Like til "death do you part" Well thats what happened to me. Now I have to make another life. I had someone in mind as a serious candidate to cherish forever but, oh well, it doesn't matter. I am a fool for trying, but I'll not give up. I have passed many opportunities by because I cherished for months and now I find I probably should go forward with my life even though I still cherish but know that (itsimpossible).......they don't want me............