I am 13 years old and I have always dreamed about having kids. I wish that I have kids and I know I'm too young and I have to complete school (college too). But I want to have kids and when I grow up I want a huge family. But, I don't wanna have a relationship with anyone sexually at my young age....do I have a problem?
2006-07-11 05:33:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Um.... What would your problem be? You say you don't want kids right now but you do want kids. Many girls want kids when they're 7. It doesn't mean anything bad as long as you don't want them right now
2006-07-11 05:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's okay to think and dream about having kids at your age, but these should be plans for further down the line, not for the short range. You don't have a problem, you are just too eager to be a grownup woman before you are finished being a girl.
If you finish your education first and then find a good man to love and help you when you are in your 20's, the children that you have together then will be healthier and happier and you will be able to give them everything they will need.
In the meanwhile, get your "baby fix" out of your system by babysitting other people's kids and get some practice taking care of them. There will be plenty of time in your future to be a mom, but you have to finish being a kid first!
2006-07-11 12:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by neanah_e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a normal person --- BUT WAIT!!! Don't even think about it now. You dream about your wedding at 13 too but doesn't mean you are going to get married. You have SOOOOO MUCH TIME in your life to have a child. I don't know how mature you are but even for the most mature of a 13 year old, you are not mature enough. 21 is even young to have a baby but at LEAST - THE VERY LEAST - wait until then. 13 is the age you start thinking about your life ahead ---- and that's ok - make it down the road. DON'T GROW UP TOO FAST - YOU WILL REGRET IT LATER. I SWEAR TO THIS.
2006-07-11 12:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of world is this that a 13 year old thinks it's a problem because she doesn't want to have a relationship? You're not supposed to have a relationship. You should make some goals for yourself (that do not include children) and work towards them. You have plenty of time to have a family with as many children and you and your husband want and can afford. Stay focused, get the best education you can, have fun and good luck sweetheart.
2006-07-11 12:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you dont have a problem sweetie...im 14 and a couple of friends of mine feel the same way...but i strongly suggest you dont think about it too much because the more you think about it, the more you are going to want to have a kid and you will most likely want to have a kid earlier and while you are still young...all im saying is go with your heart and trust yourself to make the right choice but also evaluate all the consequences...you are just thinking...and thoughts never hurt no one but just make sure that ou are thinking about the FUTURE and not planning the make the future the present...dont worry...you dont have a problelm...
2006-07-11 12:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by the_one_and_only_loka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have so much time ahead of you,,please enjoy your child hood before you start to worry about sex and children..life is short and if you have kids now you wont have a child hood to remember....You enjoy children more when you are older,,you have more patience with them also..you cant even get a job now..you would have to go on welfare and depend on your parents to raise them..never knowing where the food is coming from to feed them or the clothes they need or if you will even have a roof to put over their heads is alot to deal with and its worse at your age....Remember your a child..children dont have children
2006-07-11 12:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think that you have a good head on your shoulders. And I wish that more teenagers thought like you do. I am 23 years old and married and I have a 5 month old baby and believe me it is hard. I praise you for thinking the way you do on this issue.
2006-07-11 14:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by Cassandre A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like me at your age. I didn't finish college and I do regret it a bit. You do NOT have a problem. I waited until I was married to you know what and I don't regret it a bit. Saving yourself for your husband is a great thing to do for both of you. I hope my daughter is just like you! Your mom must be very proud of having such a smart young lady for her daughter.
2006-07-11 13:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by miss_bea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don`t think you do! It is fine to want to have a family one day. The only thing is you should not let the desire rule your life okay? Nor let it spoil here and now! Have fun being young!
2006-07-11 12:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Laventel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dreaming about your future is not a big deal BUT you are way to young to be having a child . . . finish being a child before having one and concentrate on what is important now, your education and growing up yourself
2006-07-11 14:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by wfgrg15001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! you have morals....just cause you're not interested in having sex at the very young age of 13, doesn't mean you won't want to when you're older....don't rush it...wait...trust me..i did...don't do something now just cause you think you're not normal....losing your virginity is a big deal....have fun, be a kid for as long as you can...and don't rush it!
2006-07-11 12:38:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋