I just met a guy who has been separated for 4 month. I don't want to date him even if he's separated b/c I don't want to disrespect his "wife". I do like him and would definitely date him if he was not married or even if he was divorced
2006-07-11 05:32:40 · 17 answers · asked by jso 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Congratulations! You my dear are one in a million. Wait for him to get the divorce. You are so sweet to not get involved so that you don't disrespect his wife, that is unheard of these days. If and when he gets divorced, make the move, or you can tell him how you feel right now, but tell him how you morels work, he should understand. I he doesn't, hes not worth waiting for.
Good Luck.
2006-07-11 05:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Andy S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely with lavenderrose. Four months isn't a long time to be separated and there is always a chance after some time apart they may find their way back to each other. And that will leave you in the dust. You are smart to wait. Speaking from experience, sometimes when people get divorced they want to fill that void with the first available person. Don't be that person!
2006-07-11 05:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he gets a divorce. Being separated is still being married and if you do things with a separated person it's still adultery. So a man or woman is ready to move on when they get divorced. Separation means there is still some hope.
2006-07-11 05:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by TexasBoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with talking on the phone and getting details about his feelings, but like you, I would not want to be come involved. More likely thn not - he is not over the marriage/wife, and he is probably not ready for another relationship so soon. And if you put yourself out there too quickly - you might be the 'residual pick up" is what I call it. (when he needs something, you are there to pick it up -money, phone, etc.) you don't want to get caught up in that. Listen to him and observe his feelings - he'll let you know when he is ready for a relationship. IF he begins divorce proceedings - then that's a good start.
2006-07-11 05:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait about a few year .Just be friends with him.You don't want to get in the middle of that.What if in 6 months if they want to work things out ? then where would that leave you? I would say that he still loves her.Why do you want to be with him if he still loves his ex? He may always love her.Can you deal with that?Does he have any kids with her?If so then you will have to put up with all the baby mama drama.Thats alot to deal with.I would leave him alone for a long time say 2 years at the least,Just to be sure that they don't get back together and to be sure he is really over her.You can still go out together as friends but let him know that you don't want it to go anywhere else.If you are his friend then he will open up to you and he will tell you how he really feels about his ex.Besides everybody needs a good friend right
2006-07-11 05:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as long as he is legally married, he is not ready to move on. Once he is legally divorced, it may still take some time emotionally for him to be ready to be involved with someone else.
Be careful that you are not his rebound woman. Just be a good friend to him, and see where it goes from there. Remember that his marriage broke up for a reason, and you need to get to know him very well before becoming involved.
Good luck, and take it slow!
2006-07-11 05:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by ItsJustMe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a man who's legally seperated from his wife who was cheating on him. I felt the same way because they were still married and argued on the phone everyday. Now they are divorced and we are still together. 4 months is a short time. My guy was seperated for 2 years.
2006-07-11 05:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by diameniq23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wait until you see the divorce papers and are dating for at least a year.
2006-07-11 05:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until the divorce is final before I got involved with him. There is always the possiblity that they will work things out in the end.
2006-07-11 05:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one of the few good women left out there. Not even my best friend had that much respect for me, but that's a different story. Good for you. Just tell him that you'd like to be good friends for now, and you think you should take the whole relationship slow because of what he is going through. Seriously, I hate most women,(mainly b/c none of them have as much respect as you) but you are alright!
2006-07-11 05:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋