im frightened as people have warned me im going into the unknown but i know i have to do this what would tou do
2006-07-11 05:31:43 · 14 answers · asked by kerry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
is there any nigerians in uk that are visiting nigeria in the next few weeks that could advise me on safety tips on a visit to see a friend in lagos
2006-07-11 08:23:17 · update #1
he is native nigerian
2006-07-11 08:25:03 · update #2
I am a Nigerian and I was responding to your question for a chat with Michelle before you deleted it. Nigeria is not a haven for crime. It does not have the highest cases of fraud, murder or rape in the world. We have a some bad eggs but that is not enough reason to generalize. People should be appraised on an individual basis.
In your case, how well do you know this person? are you going blindly or you have enough information to work on? Ensure someone else has details of every inch of this trip as you go along. Obviously you have some fears. Get as many people informed about the trip as possible, so you do not feel alone. See if there is anyone from your country that is in Nigeria who can check up on you and show you the ropes.
All the best.
2006-07-11 06:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by violeo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be careful. Is your friend an american citizen or nigerian. Have never been but I have afriend in Lagos. He is native Nigerian and Lagos is more congested than NYC. He also states it is very violent and has much crime. Whether you go or not should also depend on the details of the person you love. Is it someone you met at home or someone asking you to come to them. If you met online,..don't go. Nigeria is also infamous for all kinds of scams.
2006-07-11 12:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by michelle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not report to your embassy in Nigeria as soon as you arrive? They will probably give you the best tips and assistance and may even oblige you with a guide. You can call the embassy before embarking on the trip. You will feel safer knowing that so many people are aware of your trip.
Where, when and how did you meet this Nigerian? Do you know him well enough?
2006-07-12 13:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by TOO HOT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better not if you just know him on net. He can be very nice and caring online but no one knows in real life. Visit a stranger in a unknow place is quite dangerous for a girl.
Find the embassy first, maybe ask for help (ex. what it like there, where is the safe place to stay... etc) and let them have the contact number or the place you stay when you're in nigeria just in case. Be very careful if you still want to go!
2006-07-11 13:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by teaser79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend lives in inverness and i'm currently real far awa down south. its hard keeping a relationship going long distance but it is possible. i love him 2 bits and spend a fortune travelling to see him. its worth every penny and all the hours travelling alone. so yes, i would travel 2 the ends of the earth 2 c him. jus b careful when ur alone. ask him 2 meet u at the airport personally. and get a friend or family 2 take you to the airport this end. flying in between is safe as houses! Trust me, i work on aircraft!
2006-07-11 18:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sammi W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go if I knew he would be waiting for me. but if its some one you only know from the net be very careful. I have traveled to pakistan did visit a friend I met on line mind you not for love but things did not tertn out at all how I expected. after one visit I thought I was in love even after 2 he still kept me hoping and then I found he was a womaniser and black mailer so you do not know with the net at all bevery careful
2006-07-11 12:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by Sam's 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would, the unknown is always an adventure - it's meant to be, and what could be more exciting than to go on an adventure with the person you love, I don't know why you are even asking the qustion, don't be such a wimp!
2006-07-12 02:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one you don't have to do this. It's your choice and your choice alone. Now if that's what you decided to do, then deal with what ever comes. If you have not thought it through, then you need to take the time to do that now. If it's truly love it will still be there when he returns. If a man is going to stay in a relationship that is what he is going to do. If he's going to leave then that's what he is going to do. Time will tell and that's the only true test of love, (time).
2006-07-11 12:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MEETING A STRANGER WITH SUCH A DIFFRENT LIFE DIFFRENT CULTURE BE AWARE ENGLAND IS THE ONLY COUNTRY THAT DONT TREAT WOMEN AS SECOND CLASS DOGS IF U NEED AN EXAMPLE LOOK AT THE CULTURAL DIFFRENCES HERE AT HOME I RECENTLY MEET SOME FRIENDS OFF AN AREOPLANE ONLY BRITISH MEN CARRIED OR SHARED THE SUITE CASES ETHNICS WHERE LEFT CARRYING BABIES AS WELL. THIER WAY OF LIFE I SUPPOSE SOME THING YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN THE HARD WAY BY THE SOUNDS
2006-07-11 12:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by kawasakimilemuncher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK listen up i live in south Africa and this by far is one of the worst places on the earth . . . we have one of the highest murder, stolen cars and practically anything else evil you can think including rape in the world stats . . . i go to Nigeria off-en on business and it is one of the best places to travel to in Africa . . . i feel safer in Nigeria than in south Africa . . . all of the bad Nigerians live in south Africa because the religion their frowns on them so in their society they are not welcome and leave . . . i dont mean to offend anyone by this i am just talking from personal experiance . . .
2006-07-11 14:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by Monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋