My best guy friend of 4 years continues to lie to me over the stupidest things after I told him to stop doing so. He tries hard to impress people by lying around things and I can't stand him doing it all the time, especially to me. It got worse when he got a girlfriend, he would try to compete against my boyfriend and tell me things how he would take his girlfriend on adventures when it was nothing but lies cause she said it never happened and knowing him, he can't afford it. I got greatly offended when he tried to hide me, his own best friend, from his girlfriend when we would hang out. What should I do with this friendship?
2006-07-11 05:28:58 · 29 answers · asked by MedStudent 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes he did like me alot 2 years ago but I don't know about now.
2006-07-11 05:38:37 · update #1
If he's not so proud to be your friend, why should you be proud to be his? Honestly, would you want to call someone your best friend who is dishonest and competes over petty things? Friends have no reason to lie each other, if he lies over the stupidest things, how the heck are you supposed to confide and trust him over the big things that matter to you the most?
Sounds like he has issues within himself that he needs to resolve before he goes out there and builds relationships and friendships with others. You're asking for a whole bunch of unnecessary drama and emotional stress that you really don't need.
You got to ask yourself whether this friendship is of value to you and worth keeping or not?
2006-07-11 05:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Trixi Curious 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he has quite a problem....I have a guy friend like that....we don't spend as much time together as you and your friend do BUT he tells stupid little white lies and has no reason for doing so....a lot of people don't even call him on it..which is utterly ridiculous....I do though...I just get sick and tired of hearing the stuff. Are you sure that your friend doesn't have more feelings for you?? Especially since he's always trying to compare and compete with your boyfriend?? He sounds like he may be a little insecure and feels the need to make up for it somehow. Have you confronted him yet with his lies?? I would..no matter how much you really don't want to...You need to...otherwise he's just going to keep on doing it. Actually some people really have a problem with continual lieing and they seek professional help for it....he may even need to do this...if he will.
If his girlfriend now knows about you ....why is he still hiding the fact that you both spend time together? He shouldn't do this either...for his sake, yours and his girlfriend's.....pretty soon he's not going to have anyone believing him...
Tell him he needs to stop or you will think about putting an end to your relationship...no relationship should be built on lies.
Good Luck!!
2006-07-11 05:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now I'm not trying 2 tell u what 2 do but I'm just answering this question. Well I've been in a similar situation and I would tell u 2 just tell him how u feel about it and just break things off between u 2 if it continues. And I say this b/c he probably feels intimidated in some sort of way.
2006-07-11 05:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by daphne_lln 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't sound much like a friendship to me. friends don't lie to each other especially not good friends. if you can't even hang out with him because he wants to hide it from his girlfriend then you need to find you a better friend. but if you just want to save your friendship then you need to have a serious talk with him tell him its his last chance to keep your friendship and talk to his girlfriend to let her know the deal between you and him.
2006-07-11 05:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by flutter_by_baby20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be straight up with him. Tell him that its really bugging you and by telling all these lies your starting to pull away. Tell him that you can't stand how he tells lies upon lies and you don't know how much you can take. Say that your coming to the end and if he doesnt stop this its going to ruin your friendship.
2006-07-11 05:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by Hrscrzy4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has an ego problem and you can't cure the world although many females try. If his behavior annoys you that much, then it's time to phase out your relationship with him. It happens. We sometimes out grow people or go in different directions. Remember the good times, but let him go.
2006-07-11 05:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First he is probably a compulsive liar - which is a problem that he may need counseling for - may not be his fault. It almost sounds like he was also trying to get you jealous. Any chance he likes you more than as a friend but afraid it won't ever be anything more?
2006-07-11 05:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that if he continues to lie, you will have to end the friendship, because it is hurting you, and putting you in hard situations that you dont feel like dealing with.
and, tell him that his lies dont make him look any better, and are actually hurting his image, and have killed the trust you had for him, you do not trust him, and it is going to take alot of work on his part to regain it.
as for why he's doing it, probably because you are drop dead gorgeous, and hes jealous, so hes got to one-up your boy.
2006-07-11 05:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by sobrien 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is in love with you and he is jealous of your boyfriend. Ask him if he has feelings for you. That's the only reason I can think of for why he is lying to you and trying to compete with your boyfriend.
By the way, my name is Hannah too and I'm Korean! Yay.
2006-07-11 05:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by 1big teddy graham 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in love and jealous and wants to annoy you!
If he liked you two years ago and you stayed friends, he still does!
I pity him a bit. Have some understanding... and ignore him.. he has to work this out on his own. You can have a talk with him, ask him why he is doing it... maybe he will tell you, maybe not..... in any case, it is for him to work it out!
2006-07-11 09:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋