How can I approach my wife about experimenting during sex?

Question

Our sex is great! I know she would love it if we did some spicier things, but I am affraid to ask. Not sure how to start or what we could do to broach new things? Any suggestions on what we can try or how I can hint at this?

Answer 1

Just talk to her! When my husband told me he wanted to try some new stuff....Oh my gosh! I was thrilled! We have been together for nine years, so keeping stuff new in the bedroom is important!
Men think women are a lot shyer about sex then we really are. We like to try new things and experiment. Go ahead! Talk to your wife! You'll both be happy you did!!!!

Answer 2

Most women who are having a normal pregnancy may continue to have sex right up until their water breaks or they go into labor. You won't hurt the baby by making love. The amniotic sac and the strong muscles of the uterus protect your baby, and the thick mucus plug that seals the cervix helps guard against infection. There are some circumstances, though, in which you may need to modify your activity or abstain from sex altogether for part or all of your pregnancy. Your midwife or doctor should let you know whether you have — or develop — any complications that make sex a no-go. Many women report that sex feels different during pregnancy. Some find it more pleasurable, at least at times. Others may generally find it less so, for part or all of the pregnancy Let your partner know if anything feels uncomfortable, even if it's something you're used to doing all the time. If you find you're feeling turned on but not enjoying intercourse, consider other ****** activities, such as mutual pleasuring, oral sex, or self-stimulation. Experiment and make adjustments as a couple to make sex relaxing and pleasurable for both of you. Remember, too, that there's more to physical intimacy than sex. If you don't feel like having sex or your caregiver has advised you not to, you can still hug, kiss, and caress each other

Answer 3

An easy way to bring anything up with someone is by happening to come accross it in a movie, etc. while your together and start up a conversation about it. So, for example, you could rent a movie that has a sex-scene with something you wanna try. When that part comes on, you can ask her, "is that something that you'd like to try sometime?", or a similar question.

Also, sometimes it can be more exciting if it's a spur of the moment kinda thing, rather than talking about it and going over it beforehand. So you might also just wanna pick something that you've never done before which is one of the lighter things that you could guess probably wouldn't offend her or anything, and just make your move. If she responds well to that, then you know you can use the same technique with more different things.

Answer 4

You can ask her once the two of you are geared toward the bedroom. Maybe jokingly let her know that she's in for the night of her life, and ease into whatever it is you want to try. She will more lightly follow your moves if everything feels great. Then when it's over and she asks where that came from and what made you decide to do this, just tell her that "I have a very special lady and I want to make sure that you know that you are appreciated". This is coming from a female who didn't have a considerate ex to do what you're trying which led to a divorce. He choose to go outside.

Answer 5

Your spouse is the only person you are going to have sex with (I hope!) so make it good. It makes me sad when married people are afraid to tell each other what they really want, and I think this fear leads to often to infidelity.
Some night, when you're sitting on the couch with her, turn off the TV, take her hand, look deep into her eyes, tell her she's the love of your life and you want to have the most earth-shattering sex possible with her, and share your fantasies.
In my marriage, I was the one who approached my husband about this subject, and I'm so glad I did. It just gets better and better!!

Answer 6

Get a little tipsy and just start talking about things you do now that you like. Just start going towards things you have heard of and think are absurd. Then start talking about things you would like. If she is repulsed, you can say it's the alcohol talking. You may not do anything right away, but you have at least planted the seed to talk about it more.

Answer 7

I'm married too, and I think the best way to approach is to just ask. You would be surprised what a woman in love with her husband would do if you just ask. Now be careful, if you asking her to be in a threesome or something, then you might want to leave that alone.

Answer 8

My husband and I have been together for 12 years and have great sex...you have to just ask her...at the right moment...which is up to you.

My husband personally doesn't have too much cooth about that but it works out eventually...or he just sneaks it on me...in a good way.

two things that are fun for sure are food and massage/lubricating oils...

good luck!!!

Answer 9

if your sex life was all that great, there should be no problem in bringing up what you would like to do...i think your more or less just going through the motions and taking for granted that it is all that and a bag of chips! talk to her, she may want a change up also...good luck!

Answer 10

What I would suggest is get her sexy lingerie and buy a love dice ( you know the ones that have different body parts on one and things like kiss, lick etc on the other) and see how se reacts to it... then take it from there..

Hope it works out