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Question

Hey i have a friend.RIGHT.Everything i do she do everyone i like she likes everything i wear she tries to copy me.Could this be because she wanna be me or jelous of me?She my cousin and friend i call her my sister.What should i do or what do you think about it?

I can sing believe it or not.She sort of cant she tells me you cant sing and tries she tries to out sing me.

Answer 1

When someone copies you, it's the biggest form of flattery and can be the most annoying thing in the world. She must look up to you and is trying out your 'style' to figure out who she is. It will pass eventually. Just put up with it, if you tell her she may be insulted and embarrassed and may not be your friend anymore and it's a silly reason to end your friendship.

Answer 2

Well, she certainly isn't doing it because of anything negative. The old adage "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery" is an accurate one. She probably admires your taste in clothes and is insecure about her own; ...nothing wrong with like the people you like, clearly YOU have good taste in people;.....and if she does the things you do, - well, hey back at you - how ELSE would the two of you be friends ? Couldn't very well be friends with someone who does not share your friends or interests, now could you ?

Just hang in there and ignore it - don't make a scene and don't worry about it. She will find her own voice soon enough. Life's too short to make a big deal about something that won't last forever.

Answer 3

I think she has low self-esteem and doesn't think she's good enough to be herself. She's copying you because she wishes she could have your life. She wants to be you.

You might try telling her that you want to know more about her likes and dislikes. You could also try asking her what's going on in her life. General stuff like asking about her family or school (when school starts again). You could try asking her what some of her favorite things are (but of course, you'd want to make sure she doesn't know your favorites when she answers). If she's good at something and you're not, point it out and tell her that she's much better at it than you are.

The point of this is to try and find out who she is. Once you start to see her for who she is, you should encourage her to be herself. And when she does something different from you, do not tease her. Say something positive about her differences. Let her know that she's good enough and that she doesn't have to be afraid to be herself.

Those are my thoughts anyways. Then again, I might be wrong. But either way, it'd probably be a good thing to say good things about her differences.

Answer 4

Annoying, isn't it!! Your cousin imitates you because she looks up to you. "Imitation is the highest form of flattery" holds true in this case.
I have lived the same situation with my younger brother, and at the time it drove me absolutely insane.It passed as we got older, thank god.
Here's the thing...... You are a hero to your cousin, and that being the case , have all kinds of power. Even though she annoys you remember that she thinks the world of you and try not to disappoint her.
As I said earlier, it will pass, it is only temporary. So with a big helping of patience, and the knowledge that you don't often get to be someone's hero in life you should be able to get by this "stage" without losing your sanity. Good luck!!

Answer 5

She does think that you are cool and therefore copies you. I don't think that she is jealous, she just sees you being successful with your style, so she copies your style hoping to be the same sucessful.

I wouldn't call her my sister if she wasn't, because it is very ok to be close as cousins. Encourage her to develop her own cool style by helping her to find out what suits her best. In a sense that is a big compliment for you as well.
Good Luck

Answer 6

When people mimic you that's the highest form of flattery. Just like young girls like to copy stars, and singers, she likes to copy you because she admires you. If it is bothering you, you need to tell her in a very nice way to look into developing her own unique style. Let her know that people will respect her for being herself and not a mini you.

Answer 7

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
Look at all the people in the world who copy Lindsay Lohan and supermodels.
You should be proud in your sense of style and individuality that others would like to follow your example!

Answer 8

Copying is the highest form of flattery. Consider it a big compliment that she wants to be like you. I know that can be a pain. I would tell her to knock it off some - but don't hurt her feelings. She just really admires you.

Answer 9

lol I had someone like that she'd always try to do what I did wear what i wore or tried for something better it was like it was a competition at work some people would say , but ummm if u feel that uncomfortable ask about it u know theres nothin wrong with askin something u wanna no right

Answer 10

Maybe she just looks up to you. I use to do that to my older sister, not because I was jealous, it was because I wanted to be just like her. Not her but like her. Then one day she told me how sweet she thought I was and how much she loved me but that I needed to find and be myself. It worked. We still have a very close relationship, with alot of the same interests but I am who I am and she is who she is, and I don't copy cat any more, the point is maybe if you tell her that she is wonderful and you love her but that she is not going to be happy with life if she doesn't find herself for herself. Good luck, I hope I've helped.