It's been 6 months now And I've had enough...I've told him that he has to pick me or her..He has untill thursday to decide...Do You think it's a good or bad idea? Can I do something else so that I wont have to live with his psycho mom and still have him? Please HELP!!!!
2006-07-11 05:14:19 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
good luck, it must be ruff, he must be a mamas boy, i doubt youll break him of that, get yourself a real man that will appreciate you, and not his mama to live off of.
2006-07-11 08:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a girl friend that is having this same problem and she don't know what to do. I hope he picks you but I think you did the right thing. Because if you continue this he may never leave or worse. If you get your own place and have him move in you might be mothering him forever. If he wants to move you have to do it together. let him move himself or you will be doing that the rest of your life's together. My girlfriend is engaged to her boyfriend that wont move on. her boyfriend wants to buy a house with an apartment on it for his mom. DO NOT LET IT GET THIS BAD. His mom still packs his lunch for work that's bad.
2006-07-11 05:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Andria K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't make the decision immediately, then you need to make the decision to find a new boyfriend. Someone who will respect you and stand up for you rather than hiding behind momma's apron. If he's hemming and hawing over mom or you, then you should already know his choice. It's mom. Ultimatums are usually an extremely bad way of solving things since it puts both people in a stressful and awkward position, and it usually signifies that things are already bad enough that you have to make such extreme demands.
He's reluctant to give up the comfort of home and hearth with dear old mother, and I suggest you cut those apron strings and go find a man who can cook and clean for himself. ;) Best of luck.
2006-07-11 05:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by bibliophile_1976 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um...Okay, in this case, yes, you are wrong. You don't make a guy choose between you and his mom! His girlfriend and his mom are the two most important women in his world! What you can do, is kindly suggest that you two get a place of your own so you guys can have some alone time once in a while. If you two talk it out, I'm sure you'll find some sort of compromise. Good luck!
2006-07-11 05:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Namie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should never make a man choose between you and his mother. how a man treats his mother is a reflection of how would treat you. why don't you just get your own place, why are you living with his mom in the first place? Maybe she doesn't want you there and she's acting a certain way to get you guys to leave, but you shouldn't make him choose between you two, its just not right. if he feels it's time to go then both of you should go, but if he feels different about the situation, why don't you just move instead of giving him an ultimatum?
2006-07-11 05:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by shawny2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your boyfriend? and how old are you? if you guys where responsible enough get your own little place and move out of there look don't give him a Day to decide if he really loves you he Will pick you and be with you. His mom i don't have anything against her but she live her life already now is your guys turn to enjoy it if he doesn't decide anything yet move out and be a responsible yo ugh lady. Good Luck
2006-07-11 05:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by SunFlower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay yes i think its a very good idea to make him choose! You and him need to sit down and talk about everything that is going on in that house. If you can't stand to live there anymore tell him why. Maybe you and him could get a place together or move in with your parents if you can't afford it either way you need to get out of that house!
2006-07-11 05:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by flutter_by_baby20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to live with her? He shouldn't have to choose between you, only choose between living with you or not. Living with family members is never easy so he should understand that the situation needs to change. Just because he would choose to live with you doesn't mean he has chosen you over his mom, just made a choice about where to live.
2006-07-11 05:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he still living with his Mom ?? Do both of u work?He would find us a place of our own or I would go bye, bye!! If, he love u he will move out! No, couple can enjoy living with someone, mom. Good Luck!!
2006-07-11 05:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by SUN FLOWER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, don't judge his mom or anyone. but this decision (that he stays with both of you) is wrong. u're not married, are you?
if the guy can't leave his mom, this is not your problem, just don't accept it. he has to grow up and know whhat he's doing. there is nothing wrong if things would work out well, but they can hardly go so.
u don't have to be there with them without not being his wife yet, part of his family i mean.
be careful girl, don't let things happen without u wanting them to happen.
2006-07-11 05:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by yonka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason he wants to be with his Mommy, so the best bet is if you don't like it there, move. If he really wants you, he would get out of there. By him not moving I think he has made his choice.
2006-07-11 05:21:02 · answer #11 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋