I am married to the most wonderful man on earth. He treats me like a queen but I still have feelings for my ex who mistreated me throughout our relationship. He also wants to marry me now that I am married. What should I do? I don't want to hurt my husband and I am trying to forget about the ex but its not working. I even have dreams about my ex often.
2006-07-11 05:12:20 · 18 answers · asked by Gucci S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off don't have any contact with your ex. The fact that you know he wants to marry you tells me that you are in contact with him and you need to stop. It isn't unusual to have feelings for an ex regardless of how they treated you simply because of the fact that you were with them because you loved them. All those feelings don't simply die because you've moved on. The key is to acknowledge that they exist but to not let them have any power over your life. Make your focus what you have in your life now. Don't worry about the whole dream thing, dreams are seldom really about what you are dreaming of.
2006-07-11 05:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl what is wrong with you? If you are married to the most wonderful man on earth then why do you want to go back to something that was so bad? If your husband is so wonderful then be thankful and start treating him like a king. Forget about the ex.Start loving your husband more.Look your ex mistreated you why do you want to go back to that when what you have is so wonderful? You need to stop thinking about him, stop talking to him, let him know that he is an ex for a reason and that you are happily married to man that is good to you and leave it at that.Never talk to him again.
2006-07-11 05:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT THE HELL DO YOU MEAN WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?
I hope you hubby knows the woman he married. Your ex is an ex for a reason, why should you even consider going back? If you husband was the best on Earth you would not consider this at all, just be happy with where you are and quit talking to this ex. If you keep talking to him you will cheat either willinly or unwillingly (getting drunk and screwing around is still cheating). Get you head together, don't torturw you husband with your thoughts about a long gone love and focus on the love you and him should share, or did you marry him just to get away from the ex, in which case your hubby doesn't need that.
2006-07-11 05:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tend to want what we can't have. And I think being rejected can be a very strong aphrodisiac. I do know where you're coming from although I won't get into it. You tend to put someone like this on a pedestal and that's only because you only ever see them in a good light. You never had the stress, the raising of the kids, the bills etc with them. At some point you have to come out of the clouds because right now he's making you feel like a teenager and he's hitting the right buttons by saying he misses you and likes you. Always remember this - Better the devil ya know than the devil ya don't. Stop seeing him and add him to you're history book. You're husband loves you and has put his time in. Things work out the way they do for a reason. All relationships come with problems, you could be trading small problems for bigger ones if you left. Good luck
2016-03-27 01:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! sounds like you have a low self esteem problem, if you are still attracted to someone who mistreated you in the PAST! There are so many women out there who would love to have "the most wonderful man on earth", and look, you are the one mistreating HIM. You dont deserve a husband like that. You should be ashamed of yourself, going behind your husbands back & communicating with this ex!! And of course he wants to marry you, didnt you know they all want what they cant have!!! Smarten up & snap out of it, and start living your life like a respectable married woman, and start showing some loyalty for him....
2006-07-11 05:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was where you are now but your ex is an ex for a reason. It's hard to get through these things but with time all wounds heal. The ex always comes back when you've got someone who treats you like gold but it's just a test of your loyalty. It may be hard but remember all the crap he took you through and move on with the man who means more than a slap in the face. Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-11 05:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Cuddles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're still in contact with your ex enough to where he wants to marry you (even though you are already married) I suspect that you don't love your husband as much as you say you do. If you did then the abusive ex wouldn't rate a nightmare let alone a dream.
2006-07-18 20:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go see a head doctor. How many females would love to be in a marriage like yours if you're not exaggerating, and you want to jeopardize it. You have a problem. Your ex hasn't changed he's just unhappy with you having it all and he's not a part of it. Be for real, don't even have a fling with your ex because he'll make sure you become miserable with your husband.
2006-07-11 05:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex is ex, he was not Mr. right for u. He is trying to emotionaly blackmail u , . He wnts to have sxual relationships only. If u fall prey to him, he will **** u, a use u and throw away u .And u will be nowhere.Such men try to get what ever they can get from their ex. for a change. Kick him out of your heart,life and mind . Cut all contacts with him and if needed tell your best friend-your husband. My wife trusted me and came out of such past.
2006-07-11 08:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by drasitvaishnav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you still have feelings for your ex-husband is because you still have a soul-tie with him that was never severed.
When you consummated your marriage with your ex, you not only became united in the flesh, but you were also united in your soul (which is your mind, will, and emotions). The only one who can break a soul-tie is God. Therefore, you must pray to Him and ask Him to free you. Otherwise, you will be forever tormented with old memories and desires for your ex. Pray to God and ask Him to break the soul-tie and to restore your soul so that you may love your husband completely and honestly.
I don't want to make any assumptions, so if you are not a believer in Jesus Christ, I must tell you that God will not hear your prayer. If you are not a Christian, I would suggest that you accept Christ today as your Lord and Savior. Ask him to forgive your sins and to enter your heart as Lord.
After-wards, ask God to free you from all spirit, soul, and body ties to your ex. Ask Him to uproot all the tentacles of sexual bondage, emotional longings, dependencies, and enslaving thoughts so that you can give your soul totally to God and your mate. Ask God by His grace to keep you holy in your spirit, soul, and body. Then praise Him for the answer.
Note: Do not be deceived by your ex. He does not love you and will only bring destruction to your life. Cut off all lines of communication with him. If you divorce your husband to remarry your ex, you will be living in a perpetual state of adultery. You should not divorce for any reason other fornication. I encourage you to do the right thing and definitely don't hurt your husband and destroy your marriage.
2006-07-11 06:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by MC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋