2006-07-11 05:02:01 · 20 answers · asked by christina marie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
just tell her
2006-07-11 05:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, what you need to do is tell your mom. The best way is to just sit down with her and come out with it. This way she can take you to a doctor to get you set up with birth control or tested for AIDS. Don't freak out about that, everyone has gotten an AIDS test. I have had several. Better safe than sorry. Have her or your Dr. talk to you about how to prevent Sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. You should probably talk to her about relationships and boys and how you want and deserve to be treated. Don't fool yourself, you deserve someone to treat you with respect and love.
If you don't know if he had a condom then I am guessing that your relationship isn't what it probably should be to start having sex.
Good luck and just open your mouth and talk to her. She loves you and I know she would want to help.
2006-07-11 05:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by littlemamajo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tel him to use a condom did you make sure why did you want lose your virginty you need to talk to an adult who can talk you about sex like your mom have you talked to your mom about the birds and the bees there needs to be open communication with parents now a days if your not open I mean ask how your day was how are you is anything bugging you things like that I do that with my niece ever since shce was 4 not the talking of the bee thing but just talk to her make sure she is ok and that she can come to make yourself approahable as a parent some parents are and some parents are way to stern
2006-07-11 09:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by blackorkid1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all how old was this guy?have u been dating him? or did you just meet him and started talking and then got in bed??if he was ur boyfriend and ur mom did like him...tell her, but if she didn't know him or didn't like him wait a couple months later and tell her because by the time you'll be a little older and probably won't be as dissapointed.....and i think i'm right even though i am only 15.....and if u think that these other old ppl(jkz jkz) are gonna help you....i don't think so because almost the same thing happened to me and a couple moths after what happened i told her and by that time i was 15 and she only got mad for little bit....but i didn't get in trouble! so plz from sista gurl 2 sista gurl i think this is the best answer! so please take my advice....it'll be alot better!!and if u need even more help on other things my addy is chickahominy_gurl if u have yahoo messenger~~~~~yo gurl lasienaga~~~~~
2006-07-11 05:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by haley_bug_4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why don't you know if he used a condom? This is your life that you are gambling with. There are so many bad things out there that you can get. And you could also get pregnant. It is very important that you talk to your mom. And if you can't talk to her you should talk to some other responsible adult that can teach you a more about sexual active. Do not wait!
2006-07-11 05:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by luckymom43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time look at his penis to see if there is a rubber like thing covering his penis that will tell you if he has a condom or not. And try to keep your pants on or you may have to tell your mom more than you lost your virginity, preganet or a std or aids. Think better you are still young you dont want to hurt your life so soon.
2006-07-11 05:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by stephen s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her, tell her everything. If you have sex again, you really need to make sure that a guy uses a condom. It's not all about preventing pregnancy these days, it's about preventing disease that can be transmitted to you. There are diseases out there that there are no known cures for, so you really have to be careful and use protection. Also, sometimes a guy may have a disease and not know about it, other times he may know about a disease and not care. Think about this.... Best of luck to you......
2006-07-11 05:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first things first--how do you not know if he used a condom?? You are definately too young to be having sex if you can't even make sure that you are protected--from both pregnancy and disease!! Secondly --are you sure you want to tell your mom??? I personally would not want to, but that is just me.--- be careful in the future and make wise decisions, some of them may affect the rest of your life.
2006-07-11 05:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey honey..dun weri abt the condom thingy first. the 1st thing u have to do is sit down with ur mum n tok abt it.she will definitely get upset as u r still young. but it is important for u to tok to her as she is ur mum n she had the right to noe. After sharing the problem with ur mum, then u ask her abt the condom thing. That will solve ur confusion. Parents are more experience than us and so the very bst answer r from parents. ok sweetie, if u r brave enough to have sex, u must be brave to face reality.
2006-07-11 05:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay ,im 14 to... and i have frinds who lost there verginity too... my friends dotn tell there mom... well there bad kids! but if ur close to ur mom.... i think you should tell her soon... cuz if u dont she will find out from someone slse.. and she will be mad and sad that u didnt tell her... thats only if ur close to ur mom.. but if u want to tell her then sit ur mom down and tell her what happened! cuz sooner or later she will find out. And you dont want that toi happen.. and the whole guy thing and u dont know if he used a condom.. well u dont know.. and youll never know until u ask him.. but u dont have to ask him.
2006-07-11 05:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit with your mom in her room and tell her . You can't hide it from her because she needs to take you to the clinic if you weren't sure that you had safe sex .
She might get mad for a day or two but the most important thing here is you . You need to ask her about protection because a lot of sexual transmitted diseases are not just transmitted by inter course . If you are not comfortable to talk to your mother about sex ask her to take you to a family clinic and there they would tell you everything you need to know.
Take care of yourself honey, Be safe
2006-07-11 05:08:36 · answer #11 · answered by Dallul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋