I am a young Bi-female and also have a boyfriend. I was wondering...is it REALLY so bad to mess around with other girls when you have a bf? My bf is not into girl on girl...but he knew when he met me that I liked girls. He is boring sexually...and I love to have fun. Would any of you guys break up with me because you found out I was messing around with other girls behind your back? Is it really the same as screwing another guy? Not as bad, the same...or worse?
2006-07-11 04:55:56 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
cheating is cheating NO MATTER WHAT sex you do it with
2006-07-11 04:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! That's exactly the same as cheating with a man. Cheating is cheating, point blank. Instead of messing around with other girls, just try to teach him some tricks or tell him the type of sexual things that you like. Messing around with the same sex is wrong any way, but I'm not going to get into that right now. Just make your boyfriend get freaky!
2006-07-11 05:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Karmie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? If so, do you tell him? I think that he should understand that you love him and that messing around sexually with girls is to get your stimulation going. Or better yet, try to get him involved. Show him what you like, normally, when two understanding adults have a problem, they try to work it out. If he knew that you were not satisfied completely by his sexual actions then he would like to find out what turns you on and what he can do to improve.
To some guys it is not cheating, to others it is. Messing around behind his back IS cheating. If you explain to him the need to mess around with girls, he doesn't allow it, and he knew this in the beginning... then I think you two have a lot to work on.
2006-07-11 05:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by snkendall3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a girlfriend that was into girls. At first, I didn't really mind her messing around with another girl because I thought like you did that another girl isn't really competition to me. But then she started doing things secretly and thats when things went south. I'm guessing that if he isn't interested in doing the other girl thing with you, he won't be happy with you doing it behind his back. And while he may not be as upset as if it were a guy, but he will probably be mad enough to want to end the relationship. But if you are bored sexually, its probably gonna end anyway.
2006-07-11 05:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's still cheating. Just because I'm a bi female doesn't give me license to mess around with other girls while I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend. Sure, I guess it's fine if you don't really care about your bf. But for me, I could never cheat on him.
2006-07-11 05:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you did it behind his back he has every right to be upset, if you are not cheating then why do you have to do those things behind his back? how would you feel if he was with another guy behind your back? sex is sex no matter if it be with a girl or a guy, and if you are hiding that from him you are cheating. if you are open about it and he is ok with that then no harm no foul but that isnt the case in you situation. I say talk to him about it and if he is set on you not doing that then you need to decide if you want to be with him or not. but then again if he is boring in bed you could try to tell him what it is you like so he can please you..........
2006-07-11 05:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by dcj2404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking personally, I don't know that it would be a problem for me if I knew up front about it and agreed.
However, it sounds as if your bf is not ok with it, so he may very well break up with you. For him, if he is not into girl on girl, it is probably the same as if you were with a guy.
2006-07-11 04:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where were girls like you when I was younger? Not only wouldn't I break up with you, I would bottle you and keep you for future generations of men!
2006-07-11 05:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by hope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the guy.
I feel that some will think that it's cheating regardless.
The rest (the more open-minded ones) won't mind as long as they can get something out of it (ie. watch or participate).
2006-07-11 05:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this would be a fun relationship for a while, but it would get boring also after a while...would you mind if your boyfriend screwed your little friend? does your little friend have a boyfriend also? when your doing your business on her, does she sometimes taste a little different....know what i mean?
2006-07-11 04:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not as bad but still cheating , yes i woul break up with you unless you asked me to join in , although if you did i wouldn't consider you for a long term relationship
2006-07-11 04:59:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋