I have known this man for 25 years since i was 15 (now 30) we have been somewhat together, never a relationship but here and there. Last year i was in a controling relationship during that period he got engaged. After ending that relationship we picked up were we left off and now almost a year later he is set to be married yet getting closer and closer to me. They are two diffrent people, and frankly he spends more time with me then her. WHAT SHOULD I DO? We have talked about it and he is confused as he doesnt want to hurt her yet i am the one hurting and he knows that. I really do love him we have such a history together i just dont know what to do.
2006-07-11 04:50:04 · 21 answers · asked by jennjenn802000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In a world where timing is everything...you guys have been missing opportunities to be together. Ever think it was for a reason? They met and fell in love...well enough to believe they want to marry each other and here you come "again" free from your situation to destroy what ever it is they believed they had at one point. Do you honestly believe he doesn't love her? Don't be selfish. He is confused....she will be destroyed...move on with your life and if he follows so be it.
2006-07-11 05:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think much of HIM if he is playing around with you after he has asked some other girl to be his wife! If he will do it to her now, what makes you think he will not do it to you later? No matter what the two of you decide to do about YOUR relationship, I think he needs to break off his engagement. He is not devoted to his fiance, and better a broken engagement than an unhappy marriage that ends in divorce.
2006-07-11 12:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with a man who is cheating on his fiance? If he is serious about you he should end his relationship with her before pursuing one with you. That's the only decent and fair thing to do. Better that he end it with her now than marry her and end up hurting her even worse later on. If you tell him he must choose and he dilly dallies around, you have your answer. Let him go and move on.
2006-07-11 12:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee great choice for a man there lol. You really want a loser who cheats? Low self esteem and low self respect on your part. What makes you think he won't cheat on you? Try to pick better. Nice, that you are also interferring like this. Think about his poor girlfreind. How would you feel if some girl tried to steal your man? Are you this desperate and self centered?
2006-07-11 11:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Island Queen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he getting married but getting closer to you? If he is closer to you, he should be marrying you right? Think! Does he want his cake and eat it too? cos is he really actually get married to the other girl, you are his side dish. You are his mistress, who forever will be kept in the shadows, never to be publicly acknowledged by friends and society. Don't be a "used" woman.
2006-07-11 11:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is to a point where he needs to make a choice because he is going to hurt one of you regardless and if he doesn't stop cheating he is going to end up hurting both of you. You need him to be there for you and only you or not there at all so you can move forward with your life. It isn't fair to you for him to just keep you on the side and not give you all of himself.
2006-07-11 11:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 + 15 = 30 ????
No matter the math, why have you wasted so much time on someone who is willing to cheat on a ongoing basis. Sure he will be totally faithful to you once he stops cheating on his future wife. Give me a break.
2006-07-11 11:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with a man who obviously doesn't take commitment very seriously? I mean, he's cheating on his fiancee, and you think things are gonna be different with you? If you want, keep on banging him, just don't try to get him into a serious relationship. I promise, it will end up badly for you, just like it's gonna end badly for his fiancee. Keep looking for a decent man.
2006-07-11 11:59:02 · answer #8 · answered by T.A. Rossi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to decide. He is having you and her right now, but it won't last. he will be found out. If he won't choose. You choose for him and leave him forever. You are a 30 year old woman, know right from wrong even if it hurts.
2006-07-11 11:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by CosmicCruiser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to be a man, and stop cheating. If he cannot be loyal to his fiance, he has no business marryin' her. If he thinks it'll hurt her now, just shove the fact in his face, that it will hurt more if he marries her, and never planned to be loyal. He would have to LIE through his vows, and vows are suppose to be promises.......his would be empty.
He needs to choose, and choose soon.
2006-07-11 11:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋