so ive been best friends with this girl for like a year. but honestly, i think i've started to grow apart from her. we have opposite personalities- me a quiet, religious, not really wild kinda guy and her the loud, wild, party type girl. and she has drama in her life and always manages to pull me into it and she's said things on occasion that have made me feel bad about myself. ive decided i dont want to be close with her anymore, i dont want to talk to her or hang out with her as much. i want to tell her how i feel, but i havent called her in awhile and i think she suspects something is weird between us. would it be wrong to organize all my thoughts in an email about all this and send it to her? i would call her but i dont know it she'll pick up if she sees it's me, plus she can always call me about the email if she wants. is an email an ok idea in this situation? and what would i say if she asked me why i want to talk or hang out only on occasion now, why not stop talking completely?
2006-07-11 04:49:01 · 4 answers · asked by cfab 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I sense confrontation is something you don't want, but emailing her is the cowards way out. Be the man God wants you to be and tell her how you feel. You don't have to be mean, just tell her that your personality and hers are exact opposites, that you don't feel you have anything in common with her. Tell it's been hard to call her and tell her this, but avoiding the issue doesn't feel right either. So, in all fairness to her you feel that you need to go your separate ways. You will continue to feel like your stomach is tied up in knots until you are honest and forthright with her. God bless!
2006-07-11 05:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you have been friends for a while now. I wouldn't encourage an e-mail only because I feel that it could be offensive to her. She may be into partying and doesn't want to be. You stand for morality and she knows that you don't agree with her lifestyle but she obviously chooses to still put herself around you which means that she cares about your opinion. I'd encourage you to change your mindset to realize that she wants your influence in her life. Don't break off the relationship but don't allow yourself to become fully involved. I'd encourage you to be that strong, upstanding, moral individual whos approval she craves and watch how it may start to change her life for the better. It may take some time but when her life gets rocky b/c of her decisions, she will watch how stable yours is because of the responsible decisions that you have made and it will encourage her to become more mature and be a better individual because of it. Good luck!
2006-07-11 12:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by kristinaalspaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sending email is a good idea, be staright forward and honest...dont waste ur time with some1 makes u feel bad about urself
2006-07-11 11:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bronzy Rozy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just email her, an tell her, when she ask why, tell her we are two different people, are life styles are different, an i feel its best we remain friends But, we want be like it use to be,
2006-07-11 11:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by cris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋