I'm pregnant and don't want a baby right now...?

Question

I dated a guy for 3 years when I was 16. I got pregnant twice by him and had two miscarriages. The babies never developed hearts. They had bodies, hands, feet, fingers, toes, lungs, everything but hearts. I'm not with that guy anymore. I started casually seeing this guy for just a while, when we had sex and I got pregnant again by accident. It was just a sex thing, we never dated or anything. I never use to believe in abortion but I really don't want a baby this time and I don't want to have a baby by this guy. I'm lost and don't know what to do... Please help
Is there some way to make myself miscarry again? Or somewhere I could go to get something done?

Answer 1

i'm sorry you are in this situation. please consider something besides an abortion.. giving the baby up for adoption is an option.

i will pray for you

michelle,

Answer 2

Do many people ever plan for a baby? My son was a surprise, & now I would not trade him for a thousand party nights with the girls! He has enriched my life in so many ways. However, if your mind is made up, I would suggest adoption, open or closed door, but you never said how far term you were, with a history of two miscarriages, this one may also be lost naturally. If you decide to go with abortion, you must ask yourself whether you will be able to look in the mirror 10, 20 years down the road. Whatever you decide, you may need professional help in the future to deal with your loss. I noticed one of the other answers, somebody saying if you choose abortion, to do it early, as it poses less risk to you or the baby...um, ok, the point of abortion is the baby dosen't make it out alive....just thought that answer was interesting. Good luck, hon.

Answer 3

I won't tell you what is good or bad, it's not my place to do so. You should listen to your heart to know what's right or wrong. But what I can tell you is that bringing a child into this world is the most wonderful thing there is so it doesn't matter who the father is or the circumstances. I've known so many people who would give everything they own if they can go back in time and stop a mistake from happening.
Don't be afraid of being a bad parent right now. Yo will learn along the way.
You will know I'm right when you see yourself in the eyes of your child one day and see his/her smiling back at you. There are no words to describe what you will feel at that moment. If you need help, get it, but don't forfeit the most wonderful gift life give us.
Wish you the best.

Answer 4

You know this is a really heated subject. I personally feel that the choice is yours. But is you can put up with being pregnant then the best thing for you is to put the baby up for adoption. There are a lot of really wonderful people out there who would love to have your baby and the baby would have a great life. What you need to do is sit down and really think about what it would take to abort the baby. If you can handle that then go into planned parenthood and have them tell you how it is done etc. Otherwise talk to them about putting the baby up for adoption.

I recently had my second child. And when I found out that I was pregnant I thought about abortion. I personally could not do it and I have a wonderful baby boy. If we had decided to put him up for adoption he would be a wonderful addition to someone household. I look at it now like it was a great thing. But again you really need to make this choice on your own. You need to leave everyone out of it and think about what you need and what this baby needs. Don't ask people on the net because they will give you goofy answers that they really don't understand. They spit out what they have been told and don't really know. If you want to talk feel free to email me.

I hope this helps. And I hope it all ends up good in the end.

Answer 5

Don't make yourself miscarry, because you can endanger your life if you do that. If you really don't want to go through with the pregnancy and you're not interested in putting the baby up for adoption, you should see about getting an abortion. After all, making yourself miscarry is really no different, and at least if you get an abortion from a qualified provider, your life and your health won't be endangered.

Answer 6

Don't hope for a miscarriage. And if you do have the baby, don't abort that child. No matter what people say (and I might sound cliche in saying this but), when you become pregnant, you have a life within you, developing and growing inside of you. That being the case, don't even consider abortion. Have you thought of putting up the child for adoption? That would be much better.

Also, as everyone else has said, you really need to practice some maturity and responsibility. You're what - 19 yr. old or something? Man...*shakeds head* Grow up! You're not only affecting your own life, but the life of someone else, i.e. your growing child, and it is your child. If you don't want the child that bad, put it up for adoption.

Answer 7

Well - You always have the option of putting this child up for adoption. That would be the best thing to do if you do not wish to care for a child yet. Abortion should be your dire last alternative. I know from experience that it can cause far too much heartache and depression in the end that you don't think you would ever go through. . .It truly messes people up big time. I would highly suggest if you could to give this child a chance and give it to a family that really wants one and cannot physically have their own. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

first of all nobody gets pg by accident if you are having unprotected sex you know what the risks are and you still choose to do it that is not an accident. Do not try to make yourself miscarry. that is the same thing as an abortion only you are risking injury to yourself. what if you don't kill the child you just hurt his/her development and she comes out with something wrong. If you don't want the child your options of course are adoption, this is the most humane thing you can do. You are giving the child you created life and a chance at a good life with parents who care from him or her. Believe me I have had an abortion and will regret it for the rest of my life. It is not fair that your child should suffer for a mistake you made. But if you feel like you must have an abortion please go to a clinic I'm sure you want children someday don't risk your fertility or health by doing something stupid to yourself. take care and good luck to you.

Answer 9

You reap what you sow. If you aren't mature enough to take responsibility then what on God's earth makes you think you are mature enough to decide whether or not to have a miscarriage?

Suck it up, have the baby, and learn a lesson. You have sex, you can get pregnant. Did you just assume that you were different. Did you think the laws of biology would change just for you? Maybe your mom should have had an abortion, then you wouldn't have the pain of making this decision or of cursing the world with your existence.

Freakin kids....

Answer 10

Oh honey. By making yourself have a miscarriage, you could not only kill the baby, but you could always hurt yourself. So thats a big no-no. If you dont want the baby, then go to a womans health clinic. Theres options, but please consider adoption. So many couples want a baby, so just give your unborn child a chance. But with whatever you do, I wish you luck and happiness. And next time, consider the use of a condom or birth control.

Answer 11

Please don't abort this child! Abortion is murder. If you already miscarried twice, chances are you might miscarry again. But if not, please have the baby. If you don't want it by the time you give birth, then you can give it up for adoption to a loving family that perhaps can't have one of their own. Trust me, you will feel much better about saving that child's life, and if you can find a good home then you will know it is safe and well-taken care of. Just please don't abort it!