my parents just came and told me. he has been my best friend since kindergarten. i have never had that many friends other than him. now he is gone. it feels like i have lost a brother. the image of him hanging just stays in my mind. i haven't been able to see him in a few months so it feels like i couldn't even say goodbye.
How do i ease the pain.
2006-07-11 04:34:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
death has never affected me this way before!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-11 04:37:58 · update #1
he couldn't talk to me because he was living in kansas with his real mom.
2006-07-11 04:43:49 · update #2
right now you wont be able to ease the pain. just let yourself grieve and give youself time. this is not an easy thing to get over. think about the good times you have shared together and cherish those memories. your friend has moved on now and there's nothing that will bring him back accept if you do in your mind.
take it easy and speak to someone about this. im sorry for your loss.my prayers are with you
2006-07-11 04:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by cher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lossing someone is a terrible thing to experience and to get through, but life has to go on. I lost my mom when I was 9, a year after my father also passed away. My sister was taken to the mental institution because she was unable to cope with the lost. My brother turned to drugs and alcohol and got hit by a car drunk, he also passed away just resently. There is a time to grieve, so mourn. There is a time for acceptance, so look for a brighter side of life. There is a time to move on, so phase by phase, let your heart feel every emotions. Stay with your true good friends (in times like these, you will know who they are). Make yourself busy with the good stuffs, like reading, sports, going out again, even if you do not enjoy them or you are not really into them, they help in the recovery. If you are a spiritual person, talk to the BIG Guy up there, personally. DO not lock yourself out to others, do not be aloof. Life is not always sweet,. Count your blessings now, for every single lost, there is a double gain. T|rust me...been there...many times.
2006-07-11 04:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Lynyrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. Well, give yourself some time. Because it's just like loosing a family member. I know it's hard but try to remember the good times because you have a lot of them. Just try remembering him the way he was and try to stop focusing on the choice he made. Don't feel guilty because you had not seen him.......you can still say goodbye....maybe not to the physical him but to the spiritual him. Take the time you need to ease the pain and eventually it will not hurt as much. God Bless!
2006-07-11 04:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your bestfriend hang himself??? and He knows you since kindergarten and when the last time you saw him? and why didn't he come to you and talk to you? Maybe he feel stupid and not want to talk to you but you know he watching you and trying to tell you he is sorry. but he want you to move on.. if you said goodbye me forever gone I never say goodbye to my grandma when she died becaue I know I will be able to see her again when I died.
I am truly sorry about your best friend. I hope you find someone friend or family that can help you deal with your pain.
2006-07-11 04:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is good you are talking about it here... look buddy there are certain things which are not in our hands and we gotta accept them.. i am very sorry to here about this situation, but u have to face it as bold man...which i am sure u are 1...
talk to your friends, go out for movies, do some thing that you like to do....listen to some good music.... try listining to jack jhonson.... m sure he will uplift your mood....
Who knows where we might land up tommorow... live every moment that you have ....
2006-07-11 04:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by stagkingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember he in heaven ans he wouldnt want you to cry he would want you to be happy until ya meet again. There were some time i felt like killing myself because of a death in my family but you shouldnt fill down just know that he loves you love him so try not to let it put you down. He propably smilling down on you right now. I love Ya and may god bless you and your family
2006-07-11 04:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live the experience,don't escape or hide...at this time u cant be "pain resistant" however what doesn't kill us make us stronger..so appreciate the fact that ur on the other still alive and let this make u mature...
2006-07-11 04:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bronzy Rozy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*hugs* i'm so sorry to hear.. you'll get through this though.. just try to be around someone you're comfortable with. but just remember that at least you had the joy of hanging with him and knowing him.. hopefully he's in a better place.. just think positive
2006-07-11 04:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Ninja CK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he didn't like his life. You were a good friend. Try to make new friends. Talk to him from below before you go to bed everynight.
2006-07-11 04:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lexus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i am so sorry i know how you feel 10 members of my family commited suiside and 7 before i was born and 3 after i was born i'm so sorry :(
2006-07-11 04:37:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋