If your married a beautiful/sexy person, and they gained 150 pounds, what would you do?

Answer 1

Give her a gym membership as a gift. Enroll her in jennt Craig. tell then that her gaining wait is hurting your relationship and that you love her but it's a health issue that needs to be adressed. You have to be careful how you say this but if you don't say it then she might think that you don;t have a problem with it.

This is not about being shallow ( I' am just waiting for people to accuse you of this) this is a real issue and being atracted to your spouse is very important in a marriage. You will have to encourage her and support her and be sensitive if the weight has been gain with childbearing or disease related.

Good luck

Answer 2

First of all... I am more than positive that your spouse is as unhappy with his/her weight gain, if not more so.

The answers "I wouldn't *let* it get that far" is rediculous.

Talk to him/her. Suggest that you both begin eating healthier and doing some fun type of exercise together.

Not only will you both improve your health, but the *together* time will be nice.

Losing weight can be very hard and is a challenge for alot of us. I gained 50 pounds during my marriage (I am 30) and I have lost it and kept it off for 3 years now.

It's all in the attitude.

Also, if you low carb, check out lowcarbfriends.com . There is tons of very useful info there about all kinds of diets... not only low carb. Check it out even if you do not low carb.

Answer 3

Many times that amount of weight gain has an emotional component. Then again...if we're talking about a woman...how many pregnancies between now and the 150 pounds?

First you need to have a heart to heart talk....tell this person your concerns about their health, their well being, and their needs.

If they are ready to make a change...even just adding a nightly walk together is a good place to start...most of all...love them, love who they are...and never forget all the wonderful qualities that attrated you to them inthe first place !

Answer 4

If you are truly in love with this person it should not change that. It would be completely normal if you lost physical or sexual interest in them if you are not attracted to the way they look. That does not mean that you are not still in love with the person. All that means is you are human. I would keep those feelings to myself though sharing them would be crushing to the other person.However for health reasons I would express my concern to them. Agree to take an active role in diet and exercise with that person. Make sure you stress the fact that they are still beautiful to you and your love has not changed but that their health concerns you. Let them know you love them and want to help. Be very supportive of them and any efforts they take to lose the weight. Never down them or make snide comments about their weight. This will only bring them down, possibly depress them and the problem will worsen.

Answer 5

people who say personlaity is everything are clearly liars. You married this person for many reasons and look swas one of them. 150 lbs gained is alot. Tell them that you love them, always will but that you are concerned abouthere self esteem and health and miss the way they used to look. It is honest after all. Tell them you want to help and then do it. GO on walks together - eat healthy together and be supportive not negative.

Answer 6

work out together . maybe have a competition to see who can get into shape fastest. remember, this is a touchy subject for some people. try not to make it seem like its such a big deal that there is a little excess baggage. always reward for each pound lost. go out on a special date or something. make this person feel attractive at all times. especially at the gym. you know its hard when there so many other already fit people to feel motivated to go in the first place.
Good luck

Answer 7

Take note: This happens to a lot of women. They get married, put on unacceptable weight, the husband leaves and they lose the weight and find someone else. Go Figure? It's like they don't realize that if you wanted a fat chick you would have married one the first time around.

Answer 8

did this person have a baby?? your baby?? if yes, then shut up. having a baby is hard work and a painful experiance and you should feel lucky that she agreed to keep your offspring instead of having an abortion.
if not then i would still love them for who they are. not what they look like. help this person by buying more healthful foods. secretly put them on the atkins diet (but modify thier bread and pasta intake) i lost over 50 lbs on a modified atkins diet, i went from a size 3x (24-26) to an extra large in 6 months.

Answer 9

I would love them just the same. You are married to a person, not a body.

Of course, having that much weight on is bad for your health, so I would encourage my spouse to participate in regular exercise. One of the most encouraging ways you can urge someone to that is to do that physical exercise together - taking up a daily routine of walking, etc.

Answer 10

Beauty and sexuality is inthe eye of the beholder - did you marry them for their looks? what makes them beautiful? I would hope you would answer their personality, loving ways etc. and that shouldn't have changed. I would keep on loving my spouse if it was my true soul mate, if your doubting your love for this person after 150 pound increase I would suggest that you not in love, you WERE in lust.