I am about to get married and I have saved myself for my fiance' and he knows that and we are waiting until we are married. Im a little bit scared because im afraid it will really hurt, no matter how gentle he is. Just wondering if anybody could kinda explain the feeling?
2006-07-11 04:10:57 · 13 answers · asked by under_here04 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You probably won't feel a thing, in fact if you have ever done any kind of sports or physical activity, your hymen has already been "unsealed" for a while...they're very sensitive
2006-07-11 04:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by yoohoosusie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first let me say congratulations on your marriage and on waiting for marriage. Not many couples are able to do that even when several decide that they will.
It doesn't hurt every woman, however, most will be a little uncomfortable the first time. One thing you should know is that it will likely not last very long your first time. Your husband will be very excited and the "end" of the experience will probably happen quickly.
I would try the following to make it the best for both of you:
1) Make sure you have a lot of foreplay to get really aroused. If you are, it will easier to have intercourse.
2) Make sure that he is very slow and gentle with you. I'm sure he will be.
3) Give him some idea of what you are feeling as it is happening. It will be better for both of you with some feedback. He want you to feel good too.
4) Stick to simple sex positions the first two or three times. Don't get out a book and start experimenting right a way. You can do more adventurous things later on.
Good luck and have fun. Remember, everything that happens will just be between you and him. You should feel free to relax and enjoy the moment.
2006-07-11 11:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by BR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember to breathe, and try not to tense up. Relax!
I think anybody is lying if they say it was great when they lost their virginity. It was a little painful. Mostly a stretching feeling. You might feel a burning sensation if your are not lubricated. It might be akward at first but once he gets going and the stretching has subsided, it will be fine. Just remember if he doesn't get you worked up first and you cant lubricate yourself naturally, you should go to the store and buy some lubrication just in case. You might be too nervous to think about getting turned on, hehe.
2006-07-11 11:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by theVoiceWithin... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO at Dan -- Good one!!
First, your hymen may already be gone. It can tear with the use of tampons or sports or any number of ways.
Intercourse, for the first few times, may be a bit uncomfortable. Relax. Remember to breath. Lots of foreplay. The man needs to be gentle and go slow.
2006-07-11 11:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just all depends on the person. Try to tell your fiance to take it slow at first, just so you'll be able to get used to the flow of things. After a minute or so, you'll get into it, and things will seem well worth it. Congratulations though! I wish you many years of happiness!
2006-07-11 11:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by laciarlene89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feeling varies. You will need to be very stimulated for the least amount of discomfort. Talk with your doctor to find out just what you personally will need to do to eliminate as much discomfort as possible. Enjoy your honeymoon and God bless you marriage forever.
2006-07-11 11:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by the Goddess Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other fella, usually when the virgin shield breaks ,its because another ship is firing upon it and most likely its a cardasian ship.! i couldn't explain the feeling Ive never been on a make believe ship that had its virgin shield broke. sorry !, good look on having your shield broke!!!!
2006-07-11 11:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by ronald r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when the virgin shield fails, Geordi often diverts power from the warp engines to compensate.
2006-07-11 11:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by Dan w 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A little sharp pain and pleasure( try not to stress out).Have a nice time dear.
2006-07-11 11:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by Firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Dan W I think he's right
2006-07-11 11:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by workinman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋