Is it wrong for me to feel a bit creepy about this> Should she toss this crap? I told her I think she needs to let go of it to move on and she says , I have moved on. I DON'T THINK SO.
2006-07-11 04:05:52 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it's just for memories.... however if you guys are married i think she should get rid of it..i did when i got married...
2006-07-11 04:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand your feelings inthis matter. It probably feels like she's favoring her old men over you, the current one, in her life. If they're just in a shoebox stashed in the closet somewhere, you should probably let things slide. If she takes the pictures out at night and spends time going through them right in front of you, you should definitely have a talk with her about what, exactly she's trying to accomplish. Because if sh'es still mooning, she obviously HASN'T moved on.
2006-07-11 04:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by MOI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh .. the boyfriend thing.. i think its ok if she was like 15, but any older NO WAY.. especially the ex husband stuff. thats creepy. Unless its a gorgeous picture of JUST HER in her wedding dress and she looks really pretty. I love my wedding pictures and I would never get rid of the ones i was in..
she may have think she moved on, but imagine this: if you get divorced and she meets up with this boyfirend or ex husband, she can say "oh, i knew i always loved you.. see i kept our pictures"
2006-07-11 04:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by psychstudent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys always think that when a girl keeps stuff like this is for a reason.... My boyfriend thinks the same way....eventhough you might be right on feeling uncomfortable about the situation......it doesn't necessarily mean she hasn't moved on. Girls like to keep stuff like this, but not for those reasons. I really can't explain why...I guess because its part of our past and that is what makes us who we are now.
Talk to her and let her know how you feel, it is still not right that we do this. She wouldn't like it if you did the same thing, right? I wouldn't.
2006-07-11 04:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was an episode about this issue on "Everybody Loves Raymond" Basically it's okay for her to keep some old stuff, because that was a part of who she was. It doesn't mean she loves you less, but sometimes it's fun to look at old memories. It doesn't lead to an affair or anything, it's just for fun
2006-07-11 04:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by GD-Fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her keep her memories as they are part of her. In the end, they are just paper and pictures. It's possible they remind her more of what was wrong than what was right. Do your best to give her new memories worth keeping.
2006-07-11 04:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not saying that you aren't a great guy. But maybe those memories give her a sense of closure from her past relationships. Sit down and talk to her about it. Tell her how it makes you feel. It will help a lot.
2006-07-11 04:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by babyjay_babyjae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also would be a little creeped out, I kept some pictures for a while, but I had to move on, and it doesn't sound like she has had closure or something...ask her about it, tel her how you feel, and if she doesn't see your points then you need to decide if YOU can live w it and if not you need to move on
2006-07-11 04:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by yoohoosusie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine to keep one or two things, but that's all. And the reason is because that person represents a part of your life. Letters and stuff.... no. Pictures... only if it includes both.
2006-07-11 04:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a cameria and give her better memeries to keep. Pictures are a part of everyones life and just because she has known you for 2 weeks is no reason to through away a life time of memeries.
2006-07-11 04:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by Ibredd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If you don't think she has then you need to tell her how her holding on to those items make you feel. Doesn't sound like the pics are the real problem here. Maybe ask her to keep them out of sight or strore them somewhere else.
2006-07-11 04:08:04 · answer #11 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋