I have been married for almost 2 years and have been together for almost 5. If i'm not ever wanting sex or anything, do you think that he cheats? Im not suspecting he is or anything because he's always where he says he is and hes usually never away from me, but i just wanted to know what everyone else thinks!
2006-07-11 03:57:03 · 26 answers · asked by Amanda J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I doubt he is, however, the lack of intimacy does worry me, too. Is it that you guys don't have time, you're too tired, something happened that has made intimacy impossible, or is it boredom? I would talk to him, if you feel you can without it upsetting both of you. Kind of a "I worry a bit about it, though I don't think you are..." type conversation. One option is making a "date" for intimacy. Plan a night, write it on the calendar, if you have kids, get a baby sitter, and the two of you have some slow, sensual, crazy, make-your-teeth-chatter love going on, without interruption, etc. It can't hurt, and maybe you not wanting sex has to do with what's not getting done. Let's face it, we all get caught up in the day to day things and sex seems to go out the window. See what you can do to spice up your sex life. Then, you can eliminate/prevent the likelihood of cheating altogether.
2006-07-11 04:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by dark_storm73 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know him best. How important is sex to him? How can you be sure that he is always where he says he is? Maybe his mates support his actions.
All I can honestly say is that if it were my man I'd make sure that I was keeping him happy in that department, but even then some men will cheat because its not about the sex, but the conquest.
2006-07-11 11:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you with this person if you dont ever want sex? why are you with anyone at all? sex has really been given a bad rep. lots of couples and women in particular use sex as a punishment, when you argue, you with hold it. sex should be something that brings you closer together. why risk him cheating on you? you may love him deeply, but being intimate is part of a relationship.
2006-07-11 11:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact same situation as you and no, mine doesn't. Yours shouldn't either - just because you don't want sex isn't reason for him to go elsewhere to get it. I'm a birth control and have been for 7 years and it decreases sex drive in a big way. Are you on it too? I never want sex - if I never got it again it would be fine by me.
2006-07-11 11:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he is cheating. But I think you should have sex with him sometimes at least. That is what marriage is for, and I know it's not all about sex, but that's a big part of it though. And guys are generally more happy when they have their sex. I hope this helps!
2006-07-11 11:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some friends of mine are the same way. She doesn't want to and he'd NEVER cheat, but would love to have more.
My comment to them was for her to do more oral on him. He'll stay happy and you don't have to have sex. Maybe it will turn you on enough to start having him do the same thing to you. Sex isn't just intercourse, it's touching, feeling, licking, holding etc..
2006-07-11 15:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on his age.....most men at age 30 and above have loss of their libido.........stress of every day life and the natural aging process will make this happen sometimes. You should try getting some male enhancement pills and have him take them. Enzyte is highly recommended...it got like 5 stars. Just be patient....especially if you are positive he isnt cheating on you.
2006-07-11 11:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to figure out why you don't want sex and when you ask other people if they think he cheats you must be thinking it to ask it. Try talking to your partner about why you don't want sex and how he feels you may have a eye opener like he truly loves and respects your feelings. Counselor ASAP
2006-07-11 11:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by M T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will eventually get it elsewhere if he is not getting it at home. Holding on the sx is not healthy for any marriage and is a sign of rejection and inadequacy, and men don;t like being rejected because that goes straigh through their male ego.
When he finds someone that would fulfill his psysical needs he will eventually stray.
2006-07-11 11:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doubt is a scary thing in a relationship. You need to cast out this demon before you let it get a grip. The mind tends to play tricks whenever it can. Trust is the bedrock of a marriage, so false doubt can destroy it. Be happy, it sounds like your marriage is strong.
2006-07-11 11:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋