2006-07-11 03:54:13 · 10 answers · asked by Crystal K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why did he cheat? Sometimes people have to learn that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence and they have to find that out. I am not saying that it is right, it's not, but I would not leave him yet. Talk to him. Tell him you are very hurt and you lost trust in him. Seek professional help. If at all possible, work it out.
Marriage has it's up and it's downs. I hope you can work it out.
2006-07-11 04:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I understand you correctly you have continued to stay with him even though he cheated on you two yrs ago. If I am right about my assumption, it is pretty obvious this still continues to haunt you. I understand where you are coming from where you continue to stay with him and try to forgive him but if it still lingers in your mind and truly bothers you still, you might need to break it off. For one, IT WILL NEVER BE THE SAME... The loyalty is no longer there and also after two yrs and it still hurts you than sweetie, you are not happy. You need to worry about you first and make sure you are truly happy. My best advice is either have a long talk with him and try to get over his mistake, or move on. Also, you must realize he cannot change the past so you need to look towards the future and not the past, and let your heart decide if you can have a future filled with happiness and not the constant worry about if he is going to cheat again. Lastly, do not dwell on the past b/c you are just re-living it over and over and thats not how you get over incidents like this...I wish you the best and hope you take the time to realize that you both are young and mistakes like this are often likely to occur, it's how strong of person you are to either accept what happened as a mistake and move on and try to make the future better for yourself, or have the strength to say good-bye...Which ever decision you make realize it should be one in YOUR best interests...GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-11 04:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT KIND OF HELP DO YOU NEED.YOU ARE YOUNG YOU HAVE GIVEN UP YOUR BEST YEARS TO BE WITH HIM HE HASN'T GIVEN UP ANYTHING HE IS AS FREE AS A BIRD IT SOUNDS LIKE.IF HE HAS CHEATED ONCE HE WILL DO IT AGAIN ONCE YOU GO OUTSIDE OF THE MARRIAGE SOMETHING IS LOST FOREVER THEY NEVER LOOK AT YOU THE SAME AND YOU NEVER LOOK AT HIM THE SAME.YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE IN THE BACK OF YOUR MIND THE IMAGE OF HIM WITH ANOTHER WOMAN.
YOU CAN GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU ARE STILL YOUNG OR YOU CAN INVEST 10 OR 15 YEARS IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT WHEN YOU LOOK IN THE MIRROR AT 30 OR 35 AND ASK YOURSELF WHY DID I STAY.WHEN YOUR BODY IS WORN FROM HAVING HIS CHILDREN AND THE WHOLE TIME HE HAS LIVED A GOOD LIFE WITH A WIFE AT HOME WASHING HIS CLOTHES CLEANING HIS HOUSE EVEN WORKING AND PAYING HALF OF THE BILLS HAVING HIS MEALS READY FOR WHEN HE LEAVES HIS LOVERS HOUSE HE DONT HAVE TO DO ANYTHING.NOT TO MENTION THE FREE CHILD CARE THAT HE NEVER HAS TO PICK UP THE KIDS OR CALL A SITTER.
MEN HAVE IT MADE AND IF THEY CHEAT IT MEANS THAT THEY ARE FREE AND YOU ARE MARRIED.I DONT THINK I WOULD WASTE MY LIFE ON A MAN THAT CHEATS ON A 20 YEAR OLD.WHAT COULD THEY POSSIBLY HAVE THAT YOU DONT.NOTHING. SO HE IS A CHEATER AND ALWAYS WILL BE.
2006-07-11 04:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by susan w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you were too young to get maried he has alot of things todo as a young man to aide in his growth and you have alot of things to do as a young woman to aide in your growth, in my opinion you guys tied to knot way too sooooon and you need some growing space before it gets too bad! You both are still kids well you were when you got married not everyone is where you may be in your maturity level ok!
2006-07-11 03:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek help from a therapist. I would not give up just yet. Sometimes people do stupid things until they realize the pain it causes. If he loves you he will help you both get the help you need.
Marriage is hard and people screw up. Once is hard, but if he does it again, I would get out.
2006-07-11 04:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by flowerandkevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not mature enough to respect his marriage vows. Plus boys at his age still want to get into different girls pants. He is not ready to settle down. Sorry for your delima.
2006-07-11 04:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by bigblock_475_hp d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you make a decision , just remember once he cheated and you let him get away with it, he will do it again
2006-07-11 04:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK if i was you i would leave his ***.Why do you want to be with a cheater?If he cheated on you before he will do it again.
2006-07-11 03:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to get even! what state are you in again?
2006-07-11 04:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gawd.....Call Jerry Springer !!!
Move on....he's a punk and he will never respect you......... OR keep it in his pants
2006-07-13 13:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋