My soon to be X is ill, and that's why she is my soon to be X, but it is extemely difficult to co-parent with her cause she doesn't do what's in the best interest of the child and only looks for her own interest. I will soon have joint custody (next month) and I'm afraid that the sh@t will hit the fan cause she absolutley hates me and I honestly don't think she can handle it. It's hard to prove her insanity in court cause she hides it well, plus we already had a psych eval and that didn't do much excetpt mention a little blurb about how she might have a personality disorder. So now what? What is my next step after 50/50?
2006-07-11 03:45:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Document everything, and try for full custody as soon as you can afford to.
And didn't realize she was a whack job BEFORE you knocked her up??? Don't let the little head make all your decisions for you, dude!
At least you are attempting to co-parent. You are in for one helluva ride. My husband's ex is a psycho. She had full custody. Fun fun fun. :-/
2006-07-11 03:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeeeeesh man,.....that personality disorder thing is about all you need. the fact that she may have a personality disorder is pretty much a given that she would make for the leats best parent in this situation......"the influence she has upon your child?", " the demonstrative actions and speech she uses in front of your child?"......"the easily influenced mind of a child?" all lead to a child picking up on some really bad habits later on in life. I rather think that your ex may be in need of some real honest to God mental help but at the same time,.....You demonstrated your affection for her by marrying her and so,....the fact that she wrangled you into a marriage says to a court,...."this guy married her and now he just wants to get back at his wife by getting the kid from her"..........so you're in a catch 22 situation,.....play your cards close to your chest and be very careful about what you say and what you dont say........perhaps you should seek some counseling yourself even if it's only to demonstrate your desires to be a great parent.
2006-07-11 03:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by theoregonartist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's the case she'll dothechild more harm than good and maybe you need to express these things to a judge but be prepared to be the primary care giver of your child, Think of your child first and do they deserve togo through this I would say no so do whatyou have to do to insure the childs best interest!
2006-07-11 03:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get an atty that knows how to push her over the line on the witness stand and she is done otherwhise you need to document everything for later use if she blows up at you during an exchange or anything. line up witnesses that can say she is unstable
2006-07-11 03:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by CHARLES A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she is mentally ill? Or are you trying to make her mentally ill?.........I have an X too and he was the one that was mentally ill and he tried to make me feel like I was. I use to write in a diary and he thought that was mentally ill.....but he was abusive(mentally and physically)......and he tried raising our son by the laws of Andy Griffin....(you know the show?)....anyway...if the test all say she isnt mentally ill then more then likely she isnt mentally ill...........that is something you cant hide.....
2006-07-11 04:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋