Seems as if the only time my fiance talks to his ex wife on the phone is out of my site(so he thinks) and hearing distance. they have 2 kids, so it is not unusual for him to talk to her, but he always knows whats giong on there, what they are doing, where they are going, etc. (the ex and kids)but i never see him talk in front of me. And then last night he was out in the garage, and I went into my sons room looked out the window and happened to see him dial his cell phone. So I thought he saw me, but he didn't, and he started a conevrsation (i knew it was her cause I can tell by his voice who he is talking to) I couldnt hear the conversation fully and decided it was none of my business any way, so i walked away. about 15 min later i looked out the window again, and he looked like he was arguing with her, but still on the phone. Then he came in the house and looked all pissed off, but never mentioned he talked to her. Seems like if he thinks he has a few min I wont be there that is
2006-07-11 03:29:38 · 6 answers · asked by ladyjno7 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when he calls. or when he is not home. we have a home phone, but he never uses that one. What is the deal should this bother me. There is more to the story, but I am out of room soon.
2006-07-11 03:31:12 · update #1
Yeah, it is your issue too. It could go either way, but he should talk to you about what he says to his ex. It should be open conversation. You're part of all of that now too.
2006-07-11 03:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him to share more about the situation between him and her. Let him know you are here to support him if there are issues between them and that he should be more open to incorporating you in that relationship. Some times men feel that it has to be a seperate relationship with their exes. Obviously, the only time this should be an issue is when children are involved and this is when it is very important that everyone realizes that when you are marrying someone with children from a previous relationship, it is important that all the adults have open communication with each other. I know this from experience. Talk to him, ask questions about what's going on with his children and if you can help him with any concerns he may have about him and his ex's relationship.
2006-07-11 03:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lovinlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be too worried about it. However, I do think it would be worth mentioning to him that you have noticed he doesn't like to call her in front of you. Tell him that you don't mind that he talks to her, and you even don't mind if he wants to keep his conversations private (if that's how you feel), but you wish it wouldn't seem like he's hiding it from you. Just make it a conversation opener. Avoid anything that would sound confrontational and he probably will explain.
2006-07-11 03:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't read "The Enlightened Stepmom" by Perdita Norwood, RUN do not walk to the bookstore and get it NOW.
You have to set up some ground rules with your fiancee and his ex and the kids BEFORE you tie the knot.
If this bothers you, you need to bring it up with your fiancee.
2006-07-11 03:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 04:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST of all what does all the conversations with her entail? he also might be respecting you so you dont have to hear the bullshit. but i would ask him
2006-07-11 03:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋