How do I know what i am feeling is just looking at them or liking them? How do you know if another woman feels like that too? who makes a move? this is a new thing for me..but I feel I am checking out women more than men...
2006-07-11 03:15:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
... and u have good reasons to like women.
you may not know, but from a man's point of view, THAT IS COOL.
so go ahead and do it (...)
2006-07-11 04:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok - if you are looking - you are liking. And if you want to explore the idea of being with a woman, then depending on your location; you can go to a gay bar... if you are just out and about, You can usually pick up on a vibe - a look - and who makes the first move, since you have never dont this before maybe you should have a drink first... and then when you are relaxed enuff... just ask - or a small touch could trigger a reaction. Just in general conversation you can get a good feel if someone is interested. If you talk to someone and all they talk about is how hot that guy is - or how hot it would be to BE with that guy - nope stay clear. But, if you find someone who can carry on a conversation... what perfume are you wearing, nice top where did you get it, what kind of drink is that... you want to dance. Is she checking you out? Is she touchy feely? Just read the signs, and if the signs arent there, ask. Its OK to be interested... and if you want to go down the bi path - thats cool - and later if Lesbian crosses ur mind - cool - too... if you say ok been there done that - and men are for u - thats alright too. But it is ok to play - its ur life - and life is too short - so have FUN!
2006-07-11 12:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be just plain curiosity. If this is all recently and suddenly, that is probably what it is. If not, maybe your just subliminally wondering what all the commotion is about, since gay and bisexuality has magnified 100000000x and viewed by much of the population as okay. Im in high school, and I can tell you, 6 out of 10 people call themselves bisexual. It's mostly the girls, but I'm pretty sure their just saying that so they can get more attention from the girl-on-girl action loving straight boys. With all that happening, I've experienced looking at a girl and thinking she is desirable or I'm "attracted" too, but I think that was all just pure physical infatuation. But I don't consider myself bisexual, because I'm in love with a man and I would never leave him for another man, or woman.
My advice to you is if you are in love with this man, ask yourself whether these attractions to women are only physical and if you could actually love a woman as you do your man. If you find a woman your in love with, and you love her more than your man, then either have a 3-way relationship (they could both be okay with that, depending on preferences) or go with one or the other.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-11 11:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by sheepeshlysheepy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now is probably just curiosity, and it's perfectly normal. I'm sure there are tons and tons of girls who feel like you. Before you tell the world, just make sure about your feelings. There's nothing wrong with experimenting. Don't try looking too hard, when you find the one you'll know. Look for the same flirting signs as in men, there's not too much difference: interest in you, communication, trust, flirtness, etc...just remember to always be safe.
Good luck!
2006-07-11 12:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be curiosity, or it may be something more. If you are definitely attracted to your boyfriend, then you are either straight or bisexual. If this curiosity in women continues, I think you are bisexual. I've never come on to other lesbians without knowing them already, so I can't help you there. But just know that it is completely normal to feel that way and your relationship with your boyfriend can continue.
2006-07-11 12:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thoughts of woman... yes.. you are an absolute lesbian. Can you continue as a lesbian? No need to announce you are a lesbian. If you want you can announce it also.
But if you are in relation with a man, it wont be successful. But if you are compelling by society to satisfy social norms, then you have to adjust with the guy. At least you have to act you are satisfying him also. Otherwise no need to continue a relationship with the man.
2006-07-11 11:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if a man doe snot attract you and only women do you may be headed in the right direction. But it sounds like you may be bi-sexual. It is natural to find people of the same sex attractive. You have to decide how far to take it.
2006-07-11 10:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think about that too and I am married. My husband knows and I am glad to know that I am not the only one. I definetly wouldn't mind giving it a try , but just like you said how do you know who you can go to . Well if you find out let me know...lol..
2006-07-11 15:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by maliksa3782 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure, I would suggest going to a gay bar on ladies night.. lol us homosexuals are extremely sexual I have noticed in clubs.. so go to one and if you dont feel uncomfortable etc and you like it then maybe you might be Bi, and hey if someone hits on you at the club, you never know! you could get your first girl on girl kiss and like it!
2006-07-11 21:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jade H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a swinger's club.They have both men and women there.You could tell them you're curious and take things from there.
2006-07-11 10:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by kikasman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋