My son had an accident when he was 15 which left him with a traumatic brain injury an amputated right arm and left side paralysis. Our other son has downsydrome and is 13. My husband left us when we needed him most...about 4 yrs. ago. We remained friends and lovers and he helped me with the credit cards but now he's seeing the woman he cheated on me with before and is pressing me for a divorce out of court...Nows he's not giving me as much money since he's back seeing her...she cheated on her boyfriend to be with my husband. My friends think I'll have a nervous breakdown if I don't get on some antidepressant. I've tried them before and they just aggrivate my irritable bowel sydrome. I also am having problems getting things done.I can't focus and forget things . I'm 53. My husbands 40.
He also points out that he's not my 21 yr. olds real father and doesn't want to help me with him. My son's real father died a year after my son's accident. My husband raised him since he was 6
2006-07-11 03:13:50 · 13 answers · asked by Cynthia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husbands father left him when he was 1 yr. I know I'm only making excuses for him. I was raised by my loving father and mother and tried to show my husband how to be a good dad..but he doesn't have any patience with our 13 yr. old. He has lost alot too . When his brother had the accident he lost a loving big brother who was like a father to him. WEhen my grandaughter went to live with my daughter 4 yrs. ago he didn't understand. I just raised her until my daughter got her act together so it's like he lost both of his sisters, his father-like brother and his real father..He also refuses to talk now for about 5 years.
2006-07-11 04:06:02 · update #1
Both of my sons require 24 hr. supervision and my 21 yr. old needs help with all self care skills so I can't work and haven't worked in 13 years. I couldn't make enough money to pay a CNA and babysitter for both of them.
2006-07-11 04:35:25 · update #2
don't handle this out of court you have alot of stuff on your plate and need a good attorney. Make two calls one to a therapist and the other to a lawyer. You need to take care of you and your children and not worry about your husbands feelings. Be good to yourself and good things will follow. Good luck.
2006-07-11 03:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by nm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is making you crazy, I would divorce his a.s.s. and drain him for as much as you can. What a ********. I hope he has fun bangin this other chick while you carry the load of a whole family w/problems after he committed his life to you. That is rediculous. Please, you don't need antidepressants, you need some self esteem. Drugs do not solve problems, and these days with all the advertisment, it is the first thing people think to do when they have a problem.
Some closure would be a great relief to you. He is a disrespectful moron and you need him out of your life. Go to court, get your $$ and write that bastard off. I hope he has a nice life with his whore a.s.s. girlfriend that he left his family and obligations for.
I believe in karma and that means this f*cker will have hell to pay in the long run.
People that love eachother DO NOT treat one another that way. Please get a divorce and seek the advice of a mental health professional, but don't try the drugs right away. Church, a hobby, or just talking to a mental health professional may be all you need once he is out of your life- DRUGS ARE NOT THE ANSWER!
Much love and good luck, your family needs you SANE
2006-07-11 10:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by adrixia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry. It sounds like you are having a rough time. However, I don't believe this is anything that anyone here can help you with. Look at the details of the situation and maybe talk to someone close to you that you know and love to help you.
2006-07-11 10:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by followmyleader1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did your husband officially adopt the 21 year old?
Don't agree to an out of court divorce unless you are independently wealthy. Your kids are never going to be independent and their adult lives will be miserable if you let him off the hook (my nephew is developmentally disabled, is 23, and his father is trying to get out of paying support for him now, too)
2006-07-11 10:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u dont need him and u shhould gone head and give him up and stop being depress because thats just jesus testing u and if u know like i know i will divorce him and get on with my life so i can never see him but i will take him up for childsupport because i think the other one is his weel if is he would only have to send a check and i will be good
2006-07-11 10:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by cup-cake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take care of your depression first,, you getting your divorce straightened out right now might just be the thing to push you over the edge and make you hurt yourself even more
you are going to have to ask yourself whats more important-- getting your divorce finalized or risking your health and even your life
i don't know about you,, but i would choose my health and life over any guy,, husband or not
2006-07-11 10:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by becky_693 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney. This is too complicated to deal with on your own.
And only you can decide if you want to get back on the antidepressants.
2006-07-11 10:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by ae1214 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he takes you to court for divorce charges you can take him back to court for child support. As long as you pray and have god you dont need him! im sure that if your friends are willing to help you with your depression then they will be willing to help you with your boys
2006-07-24 14:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by LaLo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not handle this out of court - you need an attorney
2006-07-11 10:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by BobTheBizGuru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the Dr get some meds then get a good lawyer and sue his A55!!!!!!
2006-07-11 10:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by Waynes Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋