Why Divorce?

Question

Does every problem have to end in divorce, I know sometimes it does but every answer have to be divorce every question I read on here is leave him or her maybe some of the answers might be why don't you seek cousiling or have you sat down and talk things out. We are human people make mistakes. If we were all perfect we wouldn't have the problems we have know. Some people are unforgiving people why? When you mess up would you like someone to forgive you?

Answer 1

You say that we are all only human and that people make mistakes but how many times do you offer someone another chance when they fail to change and continually cause you to experience pain for their mistakes. In addition, we are also human have the ability to reason and know what we should and shouldnt be doing however; most people act out for themselves rather then obliging to the vows they made which was to live for each other. No one walks into a marriage and says hey ill give this a shot for a few months or a few years and then be out or really believe that theyd give up on their spouse and more importantly that their spouse could inflict so much pain or deceit. Sometimes the mask comes off when you marry someone and they are not the same person that you first fell in love with and I'm sorry no matter hard you try to fit the pieces together you can't always bend them to make them fit. I'll give you that some people could have tried harder to save their marriage and who knows perhaps they wouldve been able to do so if they had given it a chance but for the most part I feel that most people have given chance after chance after chance and would rather go on being alone then live a life where simply being together makes them both completely unhappy. And before I conclude this, I would just like to say that everyone does deserve a chance but sometimes the only way that the lesson can be learned is by denying the chance so that they can see what they had and lost and what will hopefully serve as motivation to change in the future.

Answer 2

I think a lot of the questions or answers on this board are about divorce is because this is where people go to when they want to vent their frustrations. You get your feelings out, without worrying about the repercussions.

I do believe that marriage counseling and communication is key to keeping a marriage. But, if you have done counseling (numerous times in my case) and there still is a lot of problems ie, jail, drugs, lies, manipulation, you eventually have to realize that it won't work. And then divorce is the best answer. I don't think cheating and being a jerk back is better and that would be your only other recourse.

Answer 3

Forgiveness means giving up the hope that the past can be any different, but unfortunately forgiveness is some times the hardest thing to do.. and sometime i feel people dont forgive just because their pride.

Divorce is the easy way out but is still should be Ono's last resort because relationships should be worked on not walked out on...

Keep your faith in God.. he knows and will do whats best for you.

Answer 4

I agree that some marital problems can be fixed with counselling, but on the other side of the coin, sometimes only one partner will make an effort with the counselling/marriage, in which case it only ends in frustration, stress and tears for the one trying.
Yes, everyone deserves forgiveness, but that doesn't mean having to take the other person back if it's only going to be a vicious cycle.

Answer 5

My "ex" wanted one very badly after 24 years and two children, apparently to move in with her new dude because they shared an address before she had even filed.
I remain morally opposed to divorce and did not cooperate (although it shouldn't be against the law), but after about 15 months of excruciating pain what she did turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me.
The young lady I met six months after the divorce was final soon became my wife. She is an angel. :)

Answer 6

I wouldn't expect someone to forgive me. I guess it depends on what I did that needed to be forgiven. If I cheated on my husband, I would expect him to kick my butt to the curb and I would not expect him to forgive me.

If I bounce a check in the checkbook, yes I would want forgiveness..

Each situation is different. There is not one way to settle all differences. Each person has a background. That background winds up determining how easy it is for someone to forgive, what their thought processes are, etc.

I'm rambling. I'll stop now.

Answer 7

Yes, I agree. I think people should try to work things out first out however there are times when divorce is the best and only solution.

Answer 8

Ok mess up is one thing I can forgive but, if my husband cheats on me than that i can't forgive .Cheating is asking for a divorce.Could you live with the fact that your wife/husband cheated on you? Once a cheater always a cheater.What if the husband is beating his wife?Is It right for her to stay in that marriage?There is some things you can't work out.Some people never change.

Answer 9

I think it's a very good thing that God isn't as unforgiving for mistakes we make as some of the people in the world... if he were we would all be doomed to hell!!

Answer 10

I dont beleive anybody should get married if they think divorce is an answer to their problems if it doesnt work out,,you make a lifetime commitment and it shouldnt be taken lightly