We share every thought openly and honestly.
One more thing, i was going through a bad phase,a kind of depression, when we met 3yrs back.
Today i am strong and self confident.
Sometimes I think his love and guidance had brought me back from a hopeless state.
Whenever he tried to FADE away-I kind of slid back into depression and destructive behavior.
I keep telling him that my marriage will be tough for him.
last week, i offered to remain unmarried for life-to keep our relationship going,to avoid hurting him...But on many occasions i have a very strong urge to get married...get beautiful status of happily married woman in the society. If i ask him to marry me-he will readily agree after providing good money for his family.
Q:What should we do?should i quit this relationship?when and how?
2006-07-11 02:51:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is in Blore,India.I am working in a hospital in Bombay.
He has a loving wife,great kids.His finances are a bit tight at the moment but in 6-8 months he would have more than enough money.
I meet him once in 20 days,spend the night.We have a great sex life.We speak for almost one hour a day, on phone.
He truly and madly loves me.He still wants me to find someone and get married by next year.
I also want to marry,partly cause i do not want his family life to get disturbed.
I think he hates it when i get to meet men with marriage on my mind.
Our age gap bothers me-what will friends and relatives say is the question.Cant take him to my parents,Cant have public display of emotions and hold his arm in public.
Once or twice i told him that...i might be using him.
I have strong sexual urges and needs.I want him to meet me and have sex atleast once in 15 days.
For last18 months or so i have an exclusive relationship with him.
2006-07-11 02:51:31 · update #1
You need to do a gut check. Why are you with a married man? Because he is unavailable. Find someone of your own. If you are a doctor, you have taken Menal Health classes and know the answers to what you are seeking. Yes you are using him- its very uplifting to believe you could make a man stray from him wife. But you are putting your own emotions at risk too. Soul search & move on
2006-07-11 03:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you even question getting with him? what is with people these days cheating on their spouse or helping others cheat? Do you like knowing you and him are a cheater? it's a shame his wife has no clue and you guys are doing this. If you want the best for this man you say you love, dump him and move on before that depression you had 3 years ago enters HIS WIFE'S World b/c she finds out her love was cheating on her w/ someone almost half her age....she'd probably feel like Sh it. kids too in the picture, shame. I've been down and depressed too more than anyone but myself will know, but that's no excuse to ruin someone elses marriage. Start dating again (SINGLE GUYS) and find new.
sorry to be so harsh but it saddens me to think how loosely people cheat these days
2006-07-11 10:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just like the attention he gives. If he was that much in love with you he would have left his family long ago. You need to find out what's going on with you before you make any decisions on your future with a married man.
2006-07-11 10:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by sleeplessdreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sexy dotor, i am an india man, gone thru the same situation.Its quite obvious to have desire for the men you cant be with.But thats not the reality.You cant have him for the simple reason he is married and have kids, age also makes a diff.So move on...find your man who makes you makes u happy everyday not only in 15 days..from my epxperience i am telling...ur urge for sex will fade away soon or later.But then it may be too late for u to realise.Your man who is cheating his wife can also cheat you tomorrow..Come on grown up u r not a kid anymore.
2006-07-11 10:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by sajan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes is taking the mic , dump him, he is married with kids, and he wants you to marry someone else, but he will tell you what you want to hear, to have his little party every 20 days. Cant you see that. call it a day, today.
2006-07-11 10:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by leigha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it. Stop dating a married man. He doesn't really love you - he just loves having a wife and a mistress.
2006-07-11 10:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he is married is reason enough to quit this relationship.
2006-07-11 10:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit it damn it let his family live. for your urge if you want n number of males will be on your feet try someone else you will love that,his family will survive & u will get what u want.ask next male u meet?
2006-07-11 10:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by kolkataguy70 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋