I am a 24 week pregnant mother of a 3 year old and a 20 month old. At 14 weeks, I thought I was miscarrying and went to the hospital, I was told that my cervix was open 2cm, and that I had super high blood pressure. The Dr. told me not to lift anything over 5lbs, no walking for more than 10 mins at a time, no sex, and no strenuous cleaning. NOW... I am a stay at home mom, we live paycheque to paycheque and we just get by, we have no family closeby, and even if we did, they all work anywho.... how the hell am I going to do this?????
2006-07-11 02:44:35 · 11 answers · asked by Imani 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
keep in mind that I can't lift the kid, the reason that we have no family nearby is cause my hubby had to move for a year for his job.. and we have another 5 months to go
2006-07-11 02:55:26 · update #1
First of all, stop stressing! (I know it's easier said than done). You can't plan everything in life, so don't mind those @$$holes that are jumping down your throat for being pregnant and having unexpected complications. Try to find some friends, don't worry about letting the house get messy for a while. My son is 20 months old, too. Just don't carry him. He can walk. I would definately ask your doctor what he/she had in mind-. Just be glad he didn't put you on bedrest. Where do you live? You may be able to get someone to come into your house., try a free doula.
Good luck
2006-07-11 03:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sorry about all those people jumping on you for conceiving another child. Every life is a miracle and I congratulate you and your husband! I know things are hectic, of course. My first two were close together. I'm a stay-at-home mother, too.
You might have to lower your expecations of what will get done around the house, and ask your spouse to be understanding of this. Do you have a friend or churchmember that could maybe come over once a week and help you? Could your husband check at his place of work for some help or support?
My friend had some very strong restrictions early in her pregnancy and it was tough but we helped her out. Fortunately, her condition improved somewhat and the restrictions were almost all lifted, so there is hope for you. Just take good care of yourself and that baby and do what you can.
God bless you.
2006-07-11 02:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have been in a similar situation. I was 20 weeks pregnant with a 4 year old, 3 year old and almost 1 year old. And I was pregnant with twins. I am surprised that your doctor didn't recommend having a cerclage placed to help you out. You might want to ask about this. The best advice I can give you is to have "cartoon marathons" with your kids and spread a blanket out on the floor and let them color. Get some of the markers that don't write on anything but the paper for the younger one. Good luck.
2006-07-11 02:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by blondie7795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do the best you can or you risk having a premature baby, or no baby at all. There may be some type of "baby your baby" program that could lend you the help you need or direct you to sources that will. You may even qualify for home health aid assistance . What about a church group or community action program? I would help you if I lived in your neck of the woods, I love kids and am a good grandma! I hope everything works out for you baby doll this is not an easy thing to be faced with.
2006-07-11 02:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, you had a 3 year old, a 20 month old, you have no money and you live near no family..... So getting pregnant was a great idea.
Suck it up. if the dishes don't get done then live with it.
Put the 20 month old in a play pen and let him cry.
turn the TV on for the 3 year old and toss him some cheetos to keep him happy.
In the mean time, make a friend and then ask them to do your job for you untill you can do it yourself again.
Or maybe your husband could help... gosh, he was there for all the fun part, right?
2006-07-11 02:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by jymsis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just do what you can and it may take a week or two but you will find that you are adjusting to it. You can sit and have your little one climb on your lap, you can't lift but you can still cuddle and read stories and things with them. They might not understand but they will also start to adjust. Congrats on the new baby, it will work out.
2006-07-11 08:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by curls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would follow the doctor's advice for now. You want a healthy baby. Try looking for some work you can do from home or maybe on the Internet.
2006-07-11 02:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by donise225 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine the rule of thumb that each and every different pregnant women human beings has a excellent to inform you what you're doing incorrect has were given to flow. i do not keep on with a range of of the guidelines. I do flow to the health care specialist like i'm meant to yet I also eat lunch meat and that i shovel snow (it receives deep!) I eat my eggs the way i desire them and my hubby is a painter so lol.. i do no longer examine to my toddler or take heed to Mozart. and that i HATE being pregnant a range of of the time. i'm 27 weeks alongside with #4 and my being pregnant is going nice (except for MY standard issues). thanks for giving me a threat to vent!! i think extra constructive. lol
2016-10-14 08:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a lot of faith and a lot fo prayer....I watched my mom raise 3 of us on her own...we lived pay check to pay check and she always told me that her guiding light was the lord! Also i know you proablly didnt plan to be pregnant like all these people are saying wait...and if you did then you didnt plan the complications....just be careful and follow doctor's orders
2006-07-11 02:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by JB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact social services about some in home help. its too late now, but you could have waited for the 3rd child till you were in a better position
2006-07-11 02:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋