My husband hit me?Is this normal?

Question

We had an argument and he punched me on the nose.Does it happen in a marriage.Its only been 2 weeks since we've been married.What can i do to make him love me more.Iam from ohio.Thank you.

Answer 1

You should think about therapy for him. It is NOT normal or good when a husband hits his wife. That's called abuse.

Be careful because situations like this only get worse....

Answer 2

Sorry about it...
No and Yes. For a normal healthy marriage people don't get physical.I say, "they quarrel those who can't argue and resolve a matter". I say yes if the marriage has been abusive. That is, the man has been beating or physically asaulting the wife; so for him to hit her, it's normal for them (please don't take me wrong..it's not in the least okay....not at all!!!!!)
Love is a voluntary emotional entity. This orignates from the heart and actively involves the will of the person. It's not something that one can learn or be imparted or influenced to do. It's supposed to be a conscious thing we purpose to do,contrary to what is usually said that love is blind!! You asked what you can do to make him love you more; you cannot make someone love you since this will be you acting in him and it will amount to manipulation and to some extent domination.
What could have been the cause of the arguement? Is a good starting point; for to continue, first sort out what has gone wrong.On your part try and see if there is something you did, said or failed to say or do, that could have triggered the 'mess'. Get a way of avoiding it in future.You have not said anything about him so we don't know if he is to blame. But the fact you married, I assume you loved each other. When the "storm" subsides, try to sit and talk{not when there is tension!!}
Understand that none is perfect; most of quarrels result from differences that arise between us.Know that men and women aren't the same naturally (and can never be). For the two to live together, there has to be some "compromise" in that there are things we have to let go for the sake of our spouse(s). That doesn't give abuse a legal ground!! Before you opt for divorce(which is not the best option or a solution) try all possible means to resolve the cause of the argument. Don't approach it with a judgemental stance, men beomce very defensive if confronted.Thanks

Answer 3

No way this is not normal after 2 weeks of marriage no no no leave him he is not treading you with respect you leave girl before he cannot control his self and it comes out worse you can get help out there and don't blame your self for this okay that is not how marriage goes. Look i was watching a TV show in Spanish about how husband beat their wife's and sometimes ending up killing them because they where afraid and they didn't had the nerve to talk to someone and put their husbands behind bars as they deserve. look honey run now get a divorce you deserve someone better and someone that respect you for who you are if you need a friend i am hear to listen i have been married for 1 year and 4 moths and i am happy i love my husband and he loves me we have arguments but he docent hit or anything. GOD BLESS YOU GIRL AND I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT.

Answer 4

What an idiot....him for hitting a women in the first place and you if you stay there any longer even beleiving for a minute that it will never happen again. I can guarentee you that if he has done it once he WILL hit you again. The next time will for sure be worse than this time. Go now before you have too much invested.

Answer 5

Hey there you must be the worlds best wife. You could start by ordering your own coffin, purchasing a plot, signing a suicide note, provoking him especially when he is angry, put him down when he least expects it, and of course you can pretend its all normal. Be sure to keep us all posted from your hospital bed and let us know when you get your first broken bone/s, oh, and do tell us if you are going to raise any normal children in this normal marriage.

Answer 6

This is not normal. I hear you blaming yourself for this and you shouldn't. There is nothing you can do to change this man. Get out seriously. NOW. You can get an annulment since you just got married on the base that he have physically harmed you. Please love yourself and leave before you wish that you had this moment back. It only gets worse trust me. He will come and say he's sorry but this will happen again, maybe not right away but it will come. Please leave.

Answer 7

Lady that not right for him to hit you and It wrong. I am a male and I have a wife and I don't ever hit my wife and my kids. and Yes we argument yes but hit hell no. If he hit you again you have to end that marriage asap becaue once he hit one and 2 time then it time to end it. My gosh is your nose broken??? I mean I would love to go over there kick his a$$ and do something to him. Becasue it not right for him to hit you period. No women out there take this crap period.

If you don't take this advice then later it will end up being dead or end up going to hositpal saying that you fall or you bump your head on something and hostipal will call police.

If this getting out of hand call police when he not around ok smile.
You are smart and be careful.

Answer 8

I understand that you are confused and hurt. First you must know that physical violence is NEVER ok. Chances are he is also verbally abusive to you. You need to look in yourself and find your love for you. You can not let anyone hurt you physically or emotionally. You are a wonderful person who deserves to be loved and treated right. There are goups that you can seek help from. First youmust make sure you are physically safe(and your children if you have them). Physical violence does not end, It just becomes a cycle. Please seek help, find a group, a church, and friends and family. Be strong. Good Luck.

Answer 9

It is not normal for him to hit you. Is this a normal thing for you guys? A man should never hit his wife. I suggest counseling for the both of you. He needs to learn more constructive ways to deal with his anger and if he can't then you need to get out of the relationship before he hurts you seriously.

Answer 10

STOP WANTING HIM TO LOVE YOU MORE. I ANSWERED YOUR MORE RECENT QUESTION. HE IS A LOSER. THANK GOD YOU HAVE ONLY BEEN MARRIED 2 WEEKS. IF HE HITS YOU ONCE, HE WILL HIT YOU AGAIN. EVENTUALLY, HE MIGHT KILL YOU IN A RAGE AND REALLY SHOW YOU HOW MUCH HE DOES N-O-T LOVE YOU. THE LONGER YOU ARE WITH AN ABUSER, THE MORE THE SELF-ESTEEM DIMINISHES AND YOU START THINKING YOU DESERVE IT AND YOU DON'T. YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THE VICTIM THINKING --- AND START BECOMING A SURVIVOR. AND THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN DO THAT, IS TO LEAVE HIM AND SEEK COUNSELLING. MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU. GOOD LUCK