How do I say no when my boyfriend asks me to give him oral sex. I don't like doing it very much, I feel weird and stupid, and I always feel as if i'm doing something wrong. He loves going down on me, but I always feel hesitant to return the favor.
2006-07-11 02:23:57 · 37 answers · asked by Evelyn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to just suck it up...no pun intended, and learn how to do it. Sacrifice, just like he does for you. When you get comfortable doing it, you will enjoy making your man squirm. Just keep practicing. There is no way you are gonna go through life without it, and if you do, I feel for you! Keep at it!!!
2006-07-11 02:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by skigod377 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should never -return the favor- if he enjoys oral sex and you do not then he should respect that. If you are fearful about doing it and unsure what to do then talk to him about. If you are sure this is something you do not ever want to do then tell him. If he feels he can not handle it then maybe it is time to move on.
There are lots of books and sites to give tips on oral sex. Also since it is his body and he knows it best, ask him what he likes and does not like. Ask him to to tell you how he would like it. I am sure he would love that!
2006-07-11 02:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by DutchApplePie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That too bad. Guys really really really like this action from the female. And most guys will return the favor. Its a very beautiful thing that is shared between two lovers. and if you view it this way, that may help. You can set the mood by making a beautiful surrounding, such as candles, low light, soft music. Make it erotic or a loving act. As if your giving him something that only you can give. Have pride in yourself and make it special. Your not the porn star on tv, your not dirty, its not wrong (age depending). Its as great as the act itself. Enjoy.
2006-07-11 02:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Handsup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest reading up on it, there are several books available. Giving oral is most enjoyed when you are more educated and comfortable about it. Let him know that you are not comfortable quite yet but are willing when the time is right and you are better prepared. Giving oral to a man is not just about the sucking, you gotta make love to it. It takes time and experience!!!
2006-07-11 02:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is something men like and if you like him doing it to you, you should both try to please each other.. but if you find it disgusting.. you could try and talk to him and tell him how you feel.....i do not think you should have to do what you do not feel good about doing...i am not fond of it but i am not involved and have only did that with someone i was very familiar with and thought i loved.. i think a woman should try to please her man and she wants to be pleased but at the same time if he cares about you he should understand your feelings on this subject...i hope you two are always clean and you know what i am thinking.. showers together might be fun..i think showers and baths together is really a turn on.. only if the bath is big enough though...i hope this helps you a little bit and give you a idea about how to go about tending to this problem you have..i have heard there is a lot of women that will not even attempt to do this.. i have even wandered and thought i could never imagine my parents doing such a thing....but in marriage you tend to experiement some anyway....
2006-07-11 02:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to feel good about what you do, so if you are uncomfortable then I would talk to him about it and ask that he respects how you feel. Just show him this answer and let him figure it out. The love is still there without all that ! Find out what else he likes and substitue it for it. You have to make yourself happy first, before you can try and keep someone else happy. Always remember (You are FIRST!)
2006-07-11 02:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by ressie re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're selfish. How would you feel if he went and got the deed done by someone else? If you were doing something wrong, I think he'd either tell you or wouldn't continue to ask for it. You're just making excuses.
P.S If you can ask your man to put the seat down, pick up 12 lemons, or "do i look fat?" Why can't you ask him what you could do to make your head game better?
2006-07-11 02:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me if your doing it wrong he'll let you know he'll tell you or the little guy will show you if they like it or not, have you every tried 69 maybe if he does you you can do him and you won't feel the way you do and not to scare you but there is a saying if they can't get it one place they'll go to some where were they can get it, watch a movie there is different things things that you can do but if you REEL REEL feel the way that you do say NO i don't like it all that much be truthful.
2006-07-11 02:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by mossey2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what your missing sweetheart it's great! Maybe yuo need to chill out a bit and not worry so much about how your doing it, and to be fair it's about giving as well as receiving. But if you hate it that much just make sure your hand jobs are the best!
2006-07-11 02:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my practice, I had young women ask this question as well as how to refuse anal sex without hurting the man's feelings. There is not stock answer, but if the man really cares for you and your feelings, he should be understanding, when you tell him frankly how you feel about the act.
2006-07-11 02:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by ringocox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to do it just tell him no and tell him how u feel maybe he will help u relax more and help u not to feel as weird or stupid and maybe you will feel more comfortable after you tell him how you feel, Because i do it as long as he's not complaining you're doing something right if you was doing it wrong he would probly let you know
2006-07-11 02:42:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋