my husband hit me?Is that normal?

Question

my husby hit me hard today after we had an argument.tell me ways we can love each other more?

Answer 1

No, it's never normal under any circumstance for any reason.

Answer 2

No it is not normal. A real man would not strike a woman he is supposedly in love with. He is treating you as though you are his child and that he can control you by his violent efforts.

I know it's hard, but it's sort of like when a pit bull gets its first taste of blood. It goes crazy, and will crave it. And so it is with a man. The very first time he hit you is crucial. If you stay, it is silent acceptance. Now he feels that this is proper behavior and I can guarantee he will literally strike again. You'll be in for a long and bumpy ride if you stay. And if you survive it, and that's a big "if", because you need to be made aware of all of the battered woman that are pushing up daisies today in the name of some man's "LOVE". Love that came at the end of a fist first, and then a gun last.
You don't mention if you have children with him or not, because that will make it all the harder.
Guys don't think about their children in all of this at all. And when the kids need to go into therapy in their adult life because of what they've seen and heard in their childhood, in their own homes, oh well.
You have a very important decision to make, and no one else can make it for you. This is your life, and/or your funeral if you stay. If you stay, you should start making burial arrangements now. If you leave, there are shelters all over for battered women. They won't let him ever find out where you've gone.
Guys that hit, probably witnessed that kind of abuse in their parents home, growing up. You can't fix him. Don't stay and try. Get out before he beats you to an ugly, pulp of flesh too homely for you to ever have a decent, good, kind, gentle, and loving you down to his toes, man. They are out there girl, just keep your head up. You'll miss them if you're beat down.

Answer 3

There is never a reason for a man to hit his wife. It makes him a a bully and a coward. On the flip side, my wife has annoyed the crap out of me at times where I was furious, but I would never hit her. My point is, what are you doing to provoke him? If you honestly believe that you didn't do anything and he's just abusive, then pack his stuff up and put it on the front step. No room in a woman's life for someone like that. Try counseling.

Answer 4

Hitting is not normal. In fact, it is abuse. You could have him arrested and jailed for hitting you. If he will hit you once, he will probably hit you again. If you have children, do you want them seeing Daddy hit Mommy? Unlike a lot of others, I don't say you have to leave him, but I do think you and he should get some therapy (yes, both of you. Him so he can deal with frustration in ways other than hitting, and you so that you can understand his pain and help him). A good marriage counseler would be a wonderful investment

Answer 5

You can love each other more by resolving the issue of him hitting you. That's abuse. Tell him how it made you feel and how wrong it is. Lots of guys who are abusive will back it up with "I did it because I love you" but don't take that. Ask him if you can talk without getting into a fight and upset. If things get worse, contact someone immediately.

Answer 6

Well, there is a difference between being normal and being appropriate. In some cultures, husbands hitting wives is a normal thing; but just because something is normal, it does not necessarily mean that it is appropriate. And in this case, husbands hitting wives certainly is not appropriate.

Answer 7

I am sorry, but there is no love there. You do not put your hands on an adult that you love. Obviously, he does not respect you, your opinions, mind, or body. That is not a healthy relationship. The only way you can love him more is to love yourself first; you don't let someone hit on someone you love.

I don't know if you believe in God or not, but you should pray for the strength to love and respect yourself in this situation.God did not intend for marriage to be abusive.

Be strong and faithful to yourself
Love yourself

Answer 8

No you should tell somebody about that before it gets worse and you can't stop it. I know somone who didn;t stop there husband from hitting her and she ended up in the hospital. Go to marraige counseling or something. Let him know that its not ok to hit you and that you aren't afraid of him, and if he does it again your leaving.Don't listen to Jenny's comment ( she's....) even if you did something wrong he has no right to hit you.

Answer 9

it is not supposed to be but it happens though it never happenes to me but at times i was close in hitting my wife before but thank God i never did. It would only continue if you let him do it again tell him that it is not ok for him to hit you he may show what he wants to say in another way beside physical abuse.

Answer 10

It is not normal, it is not acceptable. You can't let him do that to you. He will only hit you more. You should try to get some counselling, talk to friends, and perhaps even leave him entirely

Answer 11

This question is obviously full of crap, and it's not funny. Please don't make fun of women who are or have been in this situation.

If this wasn't a joke, then I'm sorry. It's obvious that he has no respect for you, and it's not normal to be in a relationship without mutual respect. Leave him and look for someone that will respect you.