I feel we just co-exist, I tried to explain how I feel calmly, and lovingly. All he does is after work turns on the TV. he just doesn't get it. I was told ,he has emotionaly divorced me, but loves me dearly. I.m comfussed and heartbroken. WE have been married for 13 years. have always gotten along. For a year now, he hasn't spend time with me or talk. I love him and, and I've never have been a nagging wife., he just doesn't understand what it is with all woman. I'm at a lose here. He told me he doesn't know how to seperate his feelings. Am I expecting to much? He say's theres no problem, it's me. Help me to understand this. IS this normal in a marriage at some point.after being together so long. Iv'e been sick a while now and I sometimes feel it gets to him. What to do? Im not insecure at all. and never have been. How do you handle this? Plus he tells me i'm the perfect house wife. But still the distance hurts. Theres no childern in the home either. Will it pass? Any advice please?
2006-07-11 01:45:28 · 6 answers · asked by RAINBOW 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try spending more time with friends and cut down on the cooking and cleaning for a little bit. If he sees that your having fun and enjoying yourself and don't need him he will be more interested in you.
2006-07-11 01:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation and tried everything to get some spark of interest or response from him. We were together 24 years and the last 5 or more were just living under the same roof without a relationship. I think he seen it as easier to stay with me than to make an effort to begin anew somewhere or with someone else. One night I just realized it was useless to try to hang onto something that no longer existed. I asked him to leave the next day. He did without any talking whatsoever. I thought I would miss him terribly, but actually I didn't as I realized I had done my grieving over the relationship a long time ago. If you want to stay in it because of the security being with someone else brings then do so, but don't expect it to get better emotionally. I'm sorry but it sure sounds like the relationship is over. Good luck!
2006-07-11 09:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to spice things up in the bedroom .You make it sound it is as if he might have a thing on the side . If you have been married 13 years and there are no children , have you tried ? Maybe a counselor could help . Maybe you were just not supposed to be together . Did you really marry him for love or did you do it for money ? Have your looks changed drastically over the past couple of years ?
2006-07-11 08:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by rocknrod04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first..gently suggest couples counseling. Alot of the time communication issues are easy to sort out as long as there is no major underlying problem such as lying or infidelity
second...go out for a nice romantic dinner and talk to him...not about communication but about his day, his work, his feelings...flirt with him...make him feel valued and special...he sounds like an ok guy so he just might return the feelings to you...good luck.
2006-07-11 08:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by teacher_388 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a vicious circle of routine in you sex life, try to change the things you are doing, change the timetable of everything, show your sexiness more, friends etc
2006-07-11 08:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by Tuxi X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a baby.
2006-07-11 08:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋