I asked my gf to marry me but at the time we were having some problems that led to her leaving. She came back and wants t work things out. I was drinking at the time I asked her the first time but am in a recovery program now. I love this girl with every part of my being and want to spend the rest of her life (she was recently diagnosed with a terminal illness) doing whatever I can to make her feel as special as she is. She is a very unique woman. she will do anything in her power to help someone and give selflessly of herself everyday. She can't have children because she had cancer a very young age. I am a single dad and this woman has made a tremendous difference in both our lives. I have never met anyone with that much loving kindness.
I WANT TO MARRY HER! WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2006-07-11 01:37:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well why don't you talk about it with her.. do not ask her... just start talking about it.. since she got a terminal illness she might feel guilty about getting married and leaving you. but she might think this is my last chance.. you got to know what she is feeling inside and what she wants to do with the rest of her time here.
Just start out by asking her what her feelings are about getting married and she never gave you a answer last time because of the problems.. but you are past that now and you just want her feelings on things..
2006-07-11 01:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You propose to a woman with an engagement ring and not drunk, during a fight with no ring...hello??? Buy an engagement ring and ask her when you are not drinking. Toast with sparkling grape juice to reassure her your desiction to be sober. She is sick right now and cannot deal with your alcohol problem, get it?
If she is sick is likely that she will feel as if she is not healthy enough and unworthy of marriage, You must reassure her that you lover her and her only and that you are not marry her for pity but because you love her and she is the one.
Good luck
2006-07-11 09:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You buy her a ring (it doesn't have to be a diamond, nor expensive), you find a time where the two of you are alone - and you surprise her - SOBER -
let me tell you how my husband proposed - he showed up at my son's track meet (we had been broken up for 2 months because I was tired of his inability to commit and I had started seeing someone else) he called me from the lobby and when I couldn't hear him he told me to go somewhere that I could - I walked into the lobby and heard his voice behind me say, 'remember a long time ago when I asked if I could tell people you are my girlfriend, when I turned he had a box in his hand - I nearly died - he then said, 'could I tell people you are my fiance'.
Do it right - honest - and sincere. She will say yes.
2006-07-11 08:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by christine p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though you want to marry her for the right reasons now that you are are in your right mind. You mentioned that you have a child....don't leave him/her out of this decision because the end result will effect all those involved.
Remember also that marrying her won't necessarily make her feel special. In her sickness she may consider it pity.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-11 08:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by annisenior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very touching, I can only tell you that spent more time with her and don't bring up this subject again. I don't understand why you need to get marry in order to love some body? GOD will know your love for her, you need not show your action by marrying her.Hope you treasure this relationship forever.
2006-07-11 09:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait on asking again she has alot on her plate just be there for each other loving and supporting each other through the trying times.
2006-07-11 08:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Neek-Neek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry her....as long as you loved each other no matter what is the consequences...just dont forget to raise all doubts to God , i know and im very sure HE will give you the right path of life..
2006-07-11 08:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Rhona S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, ok print this out and show it to her. that would get me. and also it will say A LOT!!!!!! but don't propose again, maybe she needs more time to think about it. maybe bring up the subject instead by showing her this!!! i think it's sweet and honest!
2006-07-11 08:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋