my husband who i have been married to for 10 yrs recently went for a course and there was this lady there who became close and since then have been msging and emailing each other... i have met her before during the graduation ... she is quite attractive so i feel very insecured now... i questioned my hubby abt this but he just said im paranoid and need to change my mind set....shoul i trust and just leave it alone... i dont know what to do...
2006-07-11 01:23:03 · 8 answers · asked by sexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would tell him that you feel a little insecure about it. Ask if you can read the emails...that will give you a sure way of finding out what the relationship really is. But know that it really could be what he says it is. I have emailed back and forth with a guy that I met on-line at a parenting website. And it was nothing more than sharing pictures of our cute kids and telling how the kids have been doing. So it really might be nothing to worry about.
2006-07-11 01:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the best thing you can do is to let it run it's course.
Face this fact - you cannot prevent your husband from cheating on you (if he was) because you cannot watch him 24/7.
By trying to prevent him (reading his messages, keeping an eye on him ..etc) from doing what he wants he will resent you and bear a grudge and this could justify any thought going through his mind that he has a reason to cheat.
Concentrate on reminding him how good your relationship is, there's nothing more offputting than an insecure and jealous girl. Spend some time with your girl mates on girl nights out, trust me you will find that the situation will turn - and your husband will then be checking up on what you're up to.
If not then find someone else, but remember you can't stop a man from cheating. If he's gonna cheat he's gonna cheat.
2006-07-11 08:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by Pimp Master G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him u r feeling hurt and insecure and just to make sure to let go ur suspicion,would he mind if u read his msgs and mails to her?Assure him ur sincerity and love.See how he reacts.
It is natural for u to feel this way,nothing paranoid,cos she s an attractive female there and whats this emailing and msging going on?If it is work related,its ok,but as u have been into marriage for 10yrs,has ur husband been used to emailing and keeping in touch with female colleagues?
2006-07-11 09:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that this woman who went to school with him also have something in common with him. They obviously are intersted in furthering their education. They probably discuss intellectural as well as life issues. Find a way to contribute.
Keep in mind the insecurity is really not attractive. Remember he married you because he loved something about you. If you have changed, you should get busy in that area (appearance, attentiveness, conversation). Men are seeking what they are not getting at home.
2006-07-11 08:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the issue 100%
Keep an eye peeled
Follow your instinct
Might be nothing
If you harp about it you"ll drive him underground
You can keep tabs much better while things are out in the open
If there is something,give him enough rope to hang himself.
2006-07-11 08:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone Men can have a friendship with women
2006-07-11 08:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by bonzcindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not this woman's fault you are insecure...you're married to your husband she's not...
2006-07-19 03:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask if he minds you meeting her via im/cam........see how he reacts..............thats your answer
2006-07-11 10:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by simon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋