the last 2 times we split up she became pregnant on both occasions, so i stayed with her, now its happened again.
i dont want to be with her anymore. she says if i leave i wont be at the birth, which i want to be.
she lied about the coil so this time im walking......
..... or should i stay??
2006-07-11 01:05:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
a coil is a little copper thing put in her uterus i think to stop girls gettin pregnant.
Ive thought of paternity tests in past but couldnt bring myself to do them.
2006-07-11 02:20:39 · update #1
what so baby number 3 on the way? **** u got yourself a situation going on well don't let her blackmail u like that if your not happy with her then u should just leave hopefully by the time the birth comes round she will have calmed down abit unless she is total psycho then she might have gotten worse, she only saying it cause she knows that's a way to get 2 u! but no point sticking around in a relationship if u don't wanna be there. why would she want u 2 stay if u have told her u don't want to be with her anymore.
all the best to ya mate hope it all works out for u!
2006-07-11 02:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by blondebirdcrazy 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
It's interesting how you wrote that you split up twice before and THEN she became pregnant. Are you sure the two children are yours? Have you ever had a paternity test done and not just taken her word for it? How do you know the third one is yours? If you aren't interested in a long term relationship with this woman why do you keep returning to her - for the children? If they are indeed your children and I would make absolutely sure, then you can sever the relationship with the mother but maintain the relationship with the children by court order if necessary. In any case there's something wrong with a relationship where a woman uses birth to control the man. That's not love. Get going on finding out who is the father of the children, and good luck!
2006-07-11 08:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's playin games, so that means you have 2 children if you don't she only tells u that to stay, My boyfriend had that problem with his ex everytime he tried to leave her she said she was pregnant
and then when he stayed she would say she had a miscarriage and this happened like 8 times probly until he found out she was playing games
If she is not playing games and she really is pregnant u can still be there for the birth and the baby even if you don't want to be with her so if u want to leave go it's your choice and she can't make u stay with her by having a baby
2006-07-11 09:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be telling you porkies and not actually be pregnant. Have you seen the test? Is she definitely pregnant? It could be emotional blackmail to make you stay. You have the right to be at the birth, or in the waiting room at least if she feels uncomfortable with you being there. If she is adamant she wont let you be there if you split up, tell her you'll tell the kid one day that she wouldnt let you be there. That will soon change her attitude. I think that staying with her when you dont want to is not fair on anybody, not you, not her or the baby. Better apart and happy than miserable and together. Good luck.
2006-07-11 08:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean by coil? did she have an IUD?
If you don't want to be with her then break up with her. dont ever get into bed with her again. if you want access to the kids you will have to file a custody suit to arrange legal shared or visitation parenting. That way everything is on the books. However, you'll probably have to pay child support
Good Luck. And stop sleeping with girls after you break up. Don't you know that's how women know best to trap a man?
2006-07-11 08:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to stay with someone you don't love - and your baby doesn't need to be involved in a relationship like that. You can be a great dad without committing to the mother. And there is NOTHING she can do to keep you from your child - get a good lawyer. For future reference don't trust anyone else to protect YOU - take care and protect yourself, use a condom!
2006-07-11 08:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a trap to me. If I were you I would walk away for now. If she really is pregnant then eventually she has to give birth right? Well as clingy as she sounds she is GONNA call you.
2006-07-11 08:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can walk away as long as you're there for the kids, seems like you never learn after the last time you should have never made the same mistake you can try a vasectomy
2006-07-11 08:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the baby and immediatly after the baby is born get your rights.
2006-07-11 08:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away she is trying to trap you, why should you be with someone that you don't want to be with. Leave but still support your baby & be there for your child!
2006-07-11 08:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋