need girl or mom advice?

Question

i am a teen boy who has always felt that i should be a girl. anybody willing to give me advice about being a girl or answering my questions about being a girl. please serious replys only.

Answer 1

parents.berkeley.edu/advice/worries/boygirl.html

Answer 2

This is very serious because it will shape your future. First you should arrange to speak to someone you really trust, parent of a best friend, teacher, couselor etc... you have to really think on this so that your trust is not betrayed.
Second this is also something that most teenagers may experience especially as your hormones start to surge...
Third you say you have "always" "felt" that you should be a girl, explore with your parents or significant guardian if they expressed that they either wanted a girl or have unconciously exposed you to "girly" issues... from sisters or whomever...
Fourth don't think you are the only one that has ever felt this way, this doesn't make you strange but it doesn't mean you were meant to be a "girl" either... we all have maleness or femaleness to our characters whether male or female and sometimes it becomes more visible one way or the other and then stereotyping comes in, we as people, peers etc... can be cruel in sterotyping, but you must learn to study this and not draw a "conclusion" based on what you "feel" cause our "feelings" sure can get us in major trouble... don't trust your feelings try to get a good understanding... most of all learn to love who you are and everything about you... once you accept you as you are others will too... hope this helps...

Answer 3

I'm not going to speak about the need for psychological counseling as most people have already addressed it.

Being a girl is NOT EASY. But neither is being a boy. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be to be the soul of one living in the body of another.

Your life, as a transsexual, will be difficult--probably more even than those that are gay, for the simple fact that there are far fewer of you, and thus less of an opportunity to educate people. Christians (and most Judaistic people) may tell you that you are a sinner, that you are going against God's will, etc.

Screw them. They can't imagine a God that would do this because their God wouldn't. And that's fine. But you and I and millions of other people know that God can and does make people of every type, blurring every conceivable line--from the blackest to the albinos, from the dwarves and midgets to the giants, from the frailest to the healthiest, from masculine to feminine. You are as natural as anyone else.

Girls are a LOT more chatty than guys. And a lot more competitive, especially when young. Seeing who is most attractive, who is higher up on the social ladder, who can get the best-looking date. They seem to LOVE to talk about other people behind their backs. Strangely, they never seem to realize that this can lead to hurt feelings.

Girls want everyone to be able to read their minds. SOmething is DEFINATELY wrong, but when asked, a girl will say that "nothing" is wrong!

Answer 4

Jesse,

Please read Brae's advice. You need to be very thoughtful about these kinds of questions: once they are spoken aloud, there is no turning back ... not for a long time. I was much like you when I was a teen. But back in those days, we really didn't know about the differences between transvestites, drag queens, cross dressers, transgender, or transsexual. [All of which are very, very different.]

Just wanting to wear the clothing of another sex is not at all unusual for teens. Wanting to experiment with sex AS the other gender is also not terribly unusual. Wanting to BE the other gender is also not unusual as a fantasy. However, NEEDING TO BE the other gender is a whole different equation. When I was 17 I was dressing andrognyously and wore my hair long - we were all "hippies" then and so could get away with it. When I started, umm, dating boys then reality set in.

It took a whole lot of soul searching, years of counseling, several failed marriages and a near bout of suicide to accept who I am.

Life for me got better. Your mileage may vary.

Having said that, do not discuss with your parents or religious leaders, high school counselors until you have done enough research. I would start with a local gay, lesbian, bi and transgender group and ask for gender counseling services. They, by law in most areas, have to maintain confidentiality and can help you work through these issues.

Answer 5

This all depends on what you mean by "always felt that I should be a girl." Is this because you want to wear girls clothes and makeup and look like a girl (maybe hoping to develop breasts), but still keep "Mr. Happy"? Or do you want to experience having periods, babies, and be like true girls? Or do you want to have relationships with boys more than you do with girls?

If it is the first, then you are a TRANSVESTITE, a guy that wants to "pose" as a girl.

If it is the second then you are a TRANSSEXUAL, you want to be the other gender.

If it is the third, then you are a HOMOSEXUAL (gay).

Answer 6

You really need to discuss this with your parents. The reason is that they might be able to tell you something about why you feel the way you do. They have the wherewithal to have your chromosomes tested to see if you actually have more female than male. If that isn't the case, then maybe you are gay. There is nothing wrong with you feelings at all. You are who you are and you should be love and respected for it. I sincerely wish you the best of luck in finding your place in life.

Answer 7

i think the big problem is 'are you sure that you really want to be a woman ?' you have to talk to a physiatrist about your social that you might still confused what should you express or act with your friends and your family it depends on your satify level coz its not a weird thing if you want to be a woman there are a lot of thiing you can do like surgery to change your body but if you decide to do it something can't get back, some ppl are gays and they dont want to change anything with their body some ppl want to be a real woman and whatever you want to be if its not get any troble to others ,dont worry ,love yourself... be happy that's important

Answer 8

first ask urself why u want to be a girl. second thing by just wishing so, u can't be a girl. so just try to be happy with what u r actually. n if u want to be girl coz u like certain qualities of girls like their careness, their humanity, their sacrifice etc. then try to develop those qualities within urself. it will help u in becoming a good human being.

Answer 9

my first question for you is,,,are you a gay? if you are a gay then thats just fine, anyway, when you were younger are you closer to your mom? to your sisters? do you like girl thing instead of a usual things that boys or guys do? do you like men rather than women? then somehow you are a gay,,,well,,,just be yourself, accept and show yourself for who you are, there is nothing that you need to do or to prove but be yourself and be proud of what you are so that you will be accepted by the people around you as well..,,,nobody can accept you for who you are but it should start from yourself.

Answer 10

learn to accet urself as the person u want to become,if u want to be a girl so be it,accept that some people will treat u different,dont ever put urself down lift ur head up high and be proud of the person become....take care!!!!

Answer 11

whatever I ask you now you answer it in 'add details'
is there any reason why you dont want to be a boy and any reason why you want to be a girl?